I was adopted..ask me anything
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Quoting Shaken1976:Did you have a happy childhood?
Quoting Whisper85:She was adopted when I was a few months old, so it was like having a much older sister. I'm not sure on the whole story just that my mom adopted her when the mom didn't want her anymore, I guess they signed over their rights. I'm not really sure. We aren't biologically related. I haven't seen her since I was 7 years old. She ran off and got married. I'm trying to find her, but it's not easy since we don't know her last name now or where she is :(
Quoting Anonymous:
How was that for you all? Her being so much older than the typical child? Also if I'm not being too nosy or dumb sounding, is she ur bio sister?
Quoting Whisper85:My mom adopted my sister. My sister was 13 though.
Well she had our last name, she met a guy that my parents did not like. From my understanding, he was abusive, that scares me. She ran off to Florida and said she was getting married. If I had the extra money I'd hire someone to look for her! It's hard to find someone when you don't have much to go by.
Quoting Anonymous:
That's kinda sad. I'm sorry. I would just try looking her up by what ever her name was when she left and go from there. Have you tried looking for marriage records? They are public and you could probably find out her name now and possibly where she lived when she got married.
Quoting Whisper85:She was adopted when I was a few months old, so it was like having a much older sister. I'm not sure on the whole story just that my mom adopted her when the mom didn't want her anymore, I guess they signed over their rights. I'm not really sure. We aren't biologically related. I haven't seen her since I was 7 years old. She ran off and got married. I'm trying to find her, but it's not easy since we don't know her last name now or where she is :(
Quoting Anonymous:
How was that for you all? Her being so much older than the typical child? Also if I'm not being too nosy or dumb sounding, is she ur bio sister?
Quoting Whisper85:My mom adopted my sister. My sister was 13 though.
Quoting Whisper85:Well she had our last name, she met a guy that my parents did not like. From my understanding, he was abusive, that scares me. She ran off to Florida and said she was getting married. If I had the extra money I'd hire someone to look for her! It's hard to find someone when you don't have much to go by.
Quoting Anonymous:
That's kinda sad. I'm sorry. I would just try looking her up by what ever her name was when she left and go from there. Have you tried looking for marriage records? They are public and you could probably find out her name now and possibly where she lived when she got married.
Quoting Whisper85:She was adopted when I was a few months old, so it was like having a much older sister. I'm not sure on the whole story just that my mom adopted her when the mom didn't want her anymore, I guess they signed over their rights. I'm not really sure. We aren't biologically related. I haven't seen her since I was 7 years old. She ran off and got married. I'm trying to find her, but it's not easy since we don't know her last name now or where she is :(
Quoting Anonymous:
How was that for you all? Her being so much older than the typical child? Also if I'm not being too nosy or dumb sounding, is she ur bio sister?
Quoting Whisper85:My mom adopted my sister. My sister was 13 though.
Yeah I tried that, I also tried looking on myspace and facebook. I just started looking so maybe one day I will find her.
Quoting Anonymous:
I would just start googling. It's really not that hard to find people when they are not trying to hide. There are many public records and things you can pull up on google,no money needed. Give it a try sometime, or try using your name first and try that to see what you can find of your self. You might surprise your self. My big sister found me on MySpace. She wasn't sure about my name or anything since we were adopted separately and had our names changed (just last name for her, my full name was changed), she just started searching and found me. I really hope you can find her :)
Quoting Whisper85:Well she had our last name, she met a guy that my parents did not like. From my understanding, he was abusive, that scares me. She ran off to Florida and said she was getting married. If I had the extra money I'd hire someone to look for her! It's hard to find someone when you don't have much to go by.
Quoting Anonymous:
That's kinda sad. I'm sorry. I would just try looking her up by what ever her name was when she left and go from there. Have you tried looking for marriage records? They are public and you could probably find out her name now and possibly where she lived when she got married.
Quoting Whisper85:She was adopted when I was a few months old, so it was like having a much older sister. I'm not sure on the whole story just that my mom adopted her when the mom didn't want her anymore, I guess they signed over their rights. I'm not really sure. We aren't biologically related. I haven't seen her since I was 7 years old. She ran off and got married. I'm trying to find her, but it's not easy since we don't know her last name now or where she is :(
Quoting Anonymous:
How was that for you all? Her being so much older than the typical child? Also if I'm not being too nosy or dumb sounding, is she ur bio sister?
Quoting Whisper85:My mom adopted my sister. My sister was 13 though.
Quoting wilesmomma:
My step dad met my mom when I was about 11 months old. They for married and he adopted me when I was 4. I met my biological father when I was 15 and I regret I did but then again I don't. I'm not joking when I say he probably has between 10-15 living children. Those don't count the miscarriages or abortions some of the women had. He was a man whore. I had a shitty childhood and my mom and step dad both played a role in it. The word father/dad meant nothing to me until my hubby became a daddy after our first was born. I see the way he is with them now and I couldn't be prouder.
Quoting CrimsonGrace:
Do you know your bio dad? How do you feel about it? I adopted my son, he is dh's bio son, he was four as well. I wonder how he will feel when he is older.
Quoting wilesmomma:
My step dad adopted me when I was 4. I had my mom though. Bump
I was adopted too, my Mom didnt abuse me but man she was fast with the paddle when I was acting up (almost daily. LOL)
I lost her when I was 13. I still miss her all these years later.
Quoting Anonymous:
It was mostly happy, I guess. My adoptive mother was abusive though. So however happy you can be being beat almost everyday. I was taken care of, had food, clothes, shelter, got pretty much anything I wanted or asked for. We had horses and all sorts of other animals. I got basically straigh A's in school. And had a lot of friends. So besides my mother trying to make my life hell, it was pretty good. I am a stronger person because of her, but she also damaged me irreparably in many ways. I have many mixed feeling towards her that I won't be able to ever express to her because she died when I was 14.
Quoting Shaken1976:Did you have a happy childhood?
Oh my gawd...this makes me want to bawl my eyes out... How did you deal with having an adoptive mom be abusive? May I ask how old you are now? (I have LOTS of questions for you...I have a special needs daughter who was a missing person...she came back and even though we got her to the doc asap the meds they gave her failed and she is now 27 weeks pregnant. The courts were going to mandate an abortion but she found out she was pregnant too late. It is really messy...so of course we are looking into adoption...your story makes me really worry about or decision)
Quoting Anonymous:
I do. I recently, within the last 5 or 6 years, got back into contact with them. Found out lots of lies I was told about them too. I am very happy to have my birth mother back in my life because my adoptive mother was an abusive bitch till she died, so I have a second chance at having a loving mother.
Quoting sonnyswoman75:
Do you know your birth parents?
Quoting CrimsonGrace:
I am truly sorry you have gone through all that.
Quoting wilesmomma:
My step dad met my mom when I was about 11 months old. They for married and he adopted me when I was 4. I met my biological father when I was 15 and I regret I did but then again I don't. I'm not joking when I say he probably has between 10-15 living children. Those don't count the miscarriages or abortions some of the women had. He was a man whore. I had a shitty childhood and my mom and step dad both played a role in it. The word father/dad meant nothing to me until my hubby became a daddy after our first was born. I see the way he is with them now and I couldn't be prouder.
Quoting CrimsonGrace:
Do you know your bio dad? How do you feel about it? I adopted my son, he is dh's bio son, he was four as well. I wonder how he will feel when he is older.
Quoting wilesmomma:
My step dad adopted me when I was 4. I had my mom though. Bump
leaving baby alone while i do laundry?