When I was writing my birth plan, my SO had a hissy fit that I didn't include him/didn't ask his opinion/let him make any decisions.
I basically told him a good majority of the things in the birth plan don't involve him. I'm sorry, but it's my prerogative if I want to tear VS have an episiotomy, or if I want the baby to be placed on my chest after delivery, or that I'd like to labor for as long as I can without pain medication VS getting it the second I can. Or that I'd like to try other methods of pain medication BEFORE an epidural.
I'm sorry, but I'm really confused to where he has input on any of that. And before he even read the birth plan he told me he wants me to get an epidural the second I walk in the hospital because he apparently doesn't want me to be a bitch to him. What I take from that is he wants me to stfu, have the baby and go home.
When he read over the birth plan, he the told me I was being "stupid" for including; "I'd like everyone to knock before entering" and that "I'd like to vocalize freely without comment or critism from staff"
Basically telling me I'm not allowed to be "mean" to him. That's what he thinks I mean by 'vocalize freely,' lol sorry, if I'm in pain and I snap at you, just get over it... Good God..
I really don't think I'm wrong for not letting him have input or whatever on the birth plan. As far as I'm concerned I'm the one going through labor, delivery and recovery, shouldn't it be up to me?? I'm really uncomfortable with him saying "NOPE! Cut her and sew her up for me!"
I mean, as far as vaccinations go for the baby, we agree, but that's it. So it's not like he's barred from helping make decisions for HER.
**EDIT: We're actually not together anymore as of very recently, so the post is kind of pointless now. But still a topic to discuss I suppose...