I know he is cheating, but I dont have the strength to leave:( UPDATE*
- 190 Replies
UPDATE..
So I confronted him, even showed his the status and he said he never wrote that, and that if he was talking about someone that the person would have liked or commented on it. BS!! He didn't write it, what kind of excuse is that?? I told him that we can't work through it if he doesn't admit and he still swore he isn't pong anything. He also said if he was cheating he wouldn't be here he would have his own place or stay with his friend B****. And that we wouldn't be getting a house in the next few weeks, we wouldn't be going out together on date nights, he wouldn't keep telling me to work at his job, and a whole bunch of other excuses. He told me that there is a big difference between me and his ex. And just because we did what we did doesn't mean he's doing with anyone else, because he did that because this is where he wanted to be but I don't know, I think he's lying. And I mentioned how his phone goes off late and he's so secretive and he said his friend randomly txts him stupid shit and to ask him and that he's just a private person. It's hard because I'm not sure if he is doing anything and if it is even sexual. I got a job BUT I don't start until September:/ what now??
Please don't upset yourself like this. You don't even know it's true. It's probably your hormones talking. For guys "I can't stop thinking about you" could be to a car or a boat, not another woman. Think positive thoughts. Things will settle down soon. You will probably laugh when you find out it's something simple and not another woman.
Quoting admckenzie:Please don't upset yourself like this. You don't even know it's true. It's probably your hormones talking. For guys "I can't stop thinking about you" could be to a car or a boat, not another woman. Think positive thoughts. Things will settle down soon. You will probably laugh when you find out it's something simple and not another woman.
I'm sorry... this is really difficult, but I believe you are right. A women usually knows without there being rock solid proof. Maybe you don't have the strength to leave right now, but maybe you could start working towards leaving as a goal? Maybe go to school? Find a job? Start copying important documents and setting up your own bank accounts and save, save, save.
I think you know that he's cheating in your gut. Of course he doesn't want to leave, if he leaves he won't be able to see his kids and have to find somewhere else to live and still pay for your home. This way he can avoid that and have sex with his new lady. I don't know what to tell you other than to file for divorce. If he knows you're serious he'll either leave or get his shit together. You have to be serious about it though. Best of luck and sorry momma.
Quoting Crazy-Steph:
If you're not willing to leave, and he won't tell you the truth so you guys can work on it, your next step is to stay and put up with.
At what age should I tell my son dh is not his bio dad?