I think I may actually harm him
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I am sitting here trying to think of reasons not to harm my husband. No this is not a joke and no I am not looking for bashing. I just am really upset and need to vent this out. I can not call anyone to talk about it because he is home and will come to see who I am talking to and about what. He never use to be this bad. Over time he has gotten worse. He tells me how stupid and worthless I am. Tells me I am a horrible mother. Even though I am the only one who takes care of our son becuase "He should have to" I am crying so hard right now I am shaking. For once in my life I actually want to harm him I actually want to fight back. I know you are thinking (Why dont you just leave) he tells me he will take my children. That he is a soldier and no one will believe that he would lie under oath. That if I ever leave him he would make me pay. I would die if I lost my son. Right now I am 20wks pregnant with a high risk pregnancy. I am suppose to be on bed rest. Which he doesnt believe. Tells me my first pregnany wasnt like this. I dont think I can handle much more. He wont go to the store or let me. When I explain that Luke (1yr) and I need to eat he says "So fucking figure it out". I never let my son go with out everything I have ever had I pawn or sell and provide for him. Luckily my father in law has been helping out. He has witnessed a lot of this. But, I dont think he knows what to to either. I know if I hit him he would hit me back he has told me to my face. But all I can think right now is that I am so fucking done.
Does he hit you? If he does the next time call the police and his command they will protect you. Military doesn't tolerate abusive service members.
You have to leave. There is little chance he'd get custody. He's a soldier - who would care for the child if he deployed? Soldiers have a history of bad behavior, during service and on home territory. Spousal abuse is also common in military families. Judges know this kind of stuff. Use your cell phone to tape him on the sly when he's being verbally abusive. If you act out against him physcially then he would have ammunition for a custody fight.
Your FIL should man up and knock the fuck out of the shitheel he raised.
Deep breaths. Sorry you are going through this =(
You need to leave. You are not going to lose your kids. Leave and file for emergency custody. Do it while he is at work.
Yes he is active we live off base he works on base. I got up the courage to call the chaplin once but never called him back. He told me they could force him into therapy but it will most likely cause more issues at home so I should look into shelters for my son and I. I have begged him to get help he tells me to mind my own fucking business. I swear he was never like this. This has only been the past year or so.
Quoting CrazyLife1996:
He's active duty? Do you live in base housing? He has another thing coming if he thinks he can get away with abusing you.
Does he hit you? If he does the next time call the police and his command they will protect you. Military doesn't tolerate abusive service members.
Quoting Anonymous:He is telling me off for the tenth time today and I am just sitting here staring at the hammer thinking one good hit that is all it would take to get him to leave me the fuck alone
leaving baby alone while i do laundry?