I think I may actually harm him
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I am sitting here trying to think of reasons not to harm my husband. No this is not a joke and no I am not looking for bashing. I just am really upset and need to vent this out. I can not call anyone to talk about it because he is home and will come to see who I am talking to and about what. He never use to be this bad. Over time he has gotten worse. He tells me how stupid and worthless I am. Tells me I am a horrible mother. Even though I am the only one who takes care of our son becuase "He should have to" I am crying so hard right now I am shaking. For once in my life I actually want to harm him I actually want to fight back. I know you are thinking (Why dont you just leave) he tells me he will take my children. That he is a soldier and no one will believe that he would lie under oath. That if I ever leave him he would make me pay. I would die if I lost my son. Right now I am 20wks pregnant with a high risk pregnancy. I am suppose to be on bed rest. Which he doesnt believe. Tells me my first pregnany wasnt like this. I dont think I can handle much more. He wont go to the store or let me. When I explain that Luke (1yr) and I need to eat he says "So fucking figure it out". I never let my son go with out everything I have ever had I pawn or sell and provide for him. Luckily my father in law has been helping out. He has witnessed a lot of this. But, I dont think he knows what to to either. I know if I hit him he would hit me back he has told me to my face. But all I can think right now is that I am so fucking done.
do not try to hit him, he will only over-power you and with you being preggo you don't want to risk getting hurt, just leave when he goes to work, do you have any family or friends close to you? go to his command, there are choices you have, just don't stay there....good luck to you
Quoting Anonymous:Yes he is active we live off base he works on base. I got up the courage to call the chaplin once but never called him back. He told me they could force him into therapy but it will most likely cause more issues at home so I should look into shelters for my son and I. I have begged him to get help he tells me to mind my own fucking business. I swear he was never like this. This has only been the past year or so.
Quoting CrazyLife1996:
He's active duty? Do you live in base housing? He has another thing coming if he thinks he can get away with abusing you.
Does he hit you? If he does the next time call the police and his command they will protect you. Military doesn't tolerate abusive service members.
No I have no family or friends near by
Quoting windsails:do not try to hit him, he will only over-power you and with you being preggo you don't want to risk getting hurt, just leave when he goes to work, do you have any family or friends close to you? go to his command, there are choices you have, just don't stay there....good luck to you
No deployments it started after the birth of our first child out of no where really
Quoting Anonymous:
Im not excusing his behavior and he isn't treating you right. What has happened in the past year? Deployments loss of family other soldiers? My ex was a active and his second deployment he lost a close family friend to a road side bomb in his birthday he became more controlling than ever and verbally abused me. If it was
Quoting Anonymous:Yes he is active we live off base he works on base. I got up the courage to call the chaplin once but never called him back. He told me they could force him into therapy but it will most likely cause more issues at home so I should look into shelters for my son and I. I have begged him to get help he tells me to mind my own fucking business. I swear he was never like this. This has only been the past year or so.
Quoting CrazyLife1996:
He's active duty? Do you live in base housing? He has another thing coming if he thinks he can get away with abusing you.
Does he hit you? If he does the next time call the police and his command they will protect you. Military doesn't tolerate abusive service members.
What did you do?
Quoting keerah311:
I know how you feel my husband is a dick too. When I was pregnant with me son he throw is wedding band at me and told me he was going to take my son. He called me so many things under the sun. I felt so worthless and alone. I was afraid to tell anyone. I was afraid it would take my child. But, I digged deep down and found the strength to fight. Understand that you have the power to change this. Do not let him have power over you. You deserve to be happy and to feel safe. I am still married to my husband but I no longer feel powerless. There is help oout here for you. And there is someone who believe you. I send you a big bear hug.
Police and ask them to escort you back home to collect your things. Do not live one more day under his dictatorship. You will NOT lose your son. He is mentally abusing you into thinking you will. He knows it too. He's no fool.
Do you ever get hit on even looking a mess?
Why inflict this silly cosmetic pain on a baby!?!