My ex husband and I have joint custody of our son who is 8. My ex remarried and I love his wife, (they also have a daughter) we get along great she is a very involved sm and my son has a great relationship with her as well. He is with me half the week and his father the half. However, xh will be gone for 3 weeks at a time beginning in July and through September. He'll fly back for 5 days then go out again for 3 weeks. I would like my ds here with me during the time that he is out of town. xh is against disturbing his schedule that we have had for 3 years now. He thinks it is important, also, that my ds keeps his relationship with sm and his sister. I told her she could babysit my son (on xh scheduled days) while I am working but that I would usually pick him up afterwards. I told her that I do think it is important she maintain her relationship with my son, but he is better with his mom not his sm. And That I didn't have to give her any time but I was trying to be nice. Apparantly that hurt her and she took it personally which I don't understand at all. Question is: What would you do? My ds loves his family at his dads as well but if his dad isn't there shouldn't he be with me?