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Nearly paid for a mom's groceries... till I saw what she was buying

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I was at the self pay ringing up at the same time as another mom.  I was alone and she was only a few feet away so I could hear her conversation with her kids.  They were all so excited to get home because they were hungry, hadnt eaten all day.  The conversation got alarmed and the mom was saying her card wasnt working.  I could tell she needed the food and she didnt know what to do.  She was starting to walk out without her food and I was turning around to offer to pay and then I noticed the packed bags, they are clear so I could see they were filled with  chips, soda and candy.  Not one veggie or fruit. 

I decided they didnt need my help after all.

by on Jun. 12, 2012 at 5:22 PM
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Mom2theboy1994
by on Jun. 12, 2012 at 5:49 PM
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I've bought groceries many times anonymously for people who buy things I wouldn't buy. Their need didn't diminish because I make different choices. I've been lucky enough to never have to worry about if my card was going to swipe, while having a swarm of hungry kids at my feet. But I was that hungry kid in my childhood. I just can't see not helping if I can. But that's me. 

Unfortunately too many grown adults in this world have very backwards ideas on what is healthy. She may have been buying quantity over quality. Also, I know my mom used to try to make up for the whole being poor as dirt thing by giving us the only "luxury" she could, which was junk food. (It sounds weird to call junk food a luxury, lol.)

I'm not trying to make excuses for the woman, and I'm not judging you for your decision not to help, I'm offering a different perspective. :)

ColtsFan1912
by FriendoftheFoot on Jun. 12, 2012 at 5:49 PM
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Eh those choices were crappy ones but it wasn't the kids fault. I grew up hungry all the time & i was happy for crap food over no food.

militarywife09
by on Jun. 12, 2012 at 5:50 PM
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Yeah.....

Fruits and veggies cost more and feed less. I still would have bought it for them.


Quoting doodlebut:

She was probably buying crap food cause that's all she could afford. I never knew that helping people came with stipulations based on your approval. Either help or don't, but leave your preferences out of it.

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Mrs.Winchester
by on Jun. 12, 2012 at 5:50 PM
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cool story.
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ColtsFan1912
by FriendoftheFoot on Jun. 12, 2012 at 5:50 PM
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sounds a lot like my childhood.

My mom tried but she didn't always make the best healthy decision but she fed us. Money was night, we went hungry sometimes but she bought what we could afford. Most the time it was "crap" but it was better than nothing.

Quoting Mom2theboy1994:

I've bought groceries many times anonymously for people who buy things I wouldn't buy. Their need didn't diminish because I make different choices. I've been lucky enough to never have to worry about if my card was going to swipe, while having a swarm of hungry kids at my feet. But I was that hungry kid in my childhood. I just can't see not helping if I can. But that's me. 

Unfortunately too many grown adults in this world have very backwards ideas on what is healthy. She may have been buying quantity over quality. Also, I know my mom used to try to make up for the whole being poor as dirt thing by giving us the only "luxury" she could, which was junk food. (It sounds weird to call junk food a luxury, lol.)

I'm not trying to make excuses for the woman, and I'm not judging you for your decision not to help, I'm offering a different perspective. :)


"Here's to the memories, these are my souvenirs. . .I wouldn't trade it for anything" -Switchfoot.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Jun. 12, 2012 at 5:51 PM
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I agree. Processed food is cheaper than fresh--and sometimes, they just can't afford to go organic so having processed is better than having nothing!

Quoting doodlebut:

She was probably buying crap food cause that's all she could afford. I never knew that helping people came with stipulations based on your approval. Either help or don't, but leave your preferences out of it.


MilfShake26
by on Jun. 12, 2012 at 5:52 PM
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Maybe there was stuff in the bags you didn't see and the chips were on top. Regardless, if I could afford it I would never turn down hungry kids. Those poor babies, I hope they got something to eat.
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MrsJHoward
by Gold Member on Jun. 12, 2012 at 5:52 PM
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Awww, so cute!

Quoting mommy3Ds:

I help a lot at work when kids come in and dont have enough. This little boy came in one day and got him self a lunchable, salad, banana, and water. He was 2 dollars short he started to tear up and say oh ill put the lunchable up my mommy is prrgnant and needs to eat healthy so my sissy can be big and strong i couldnt help but pay
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iloveashton804
by Silver Member on Jun. 12, 2012 at 5:52 PM
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 Agreed. We were stopped at a light and there was a homeless man yesterday. I gave SO 5 dollars that I had in the van to give to him. He was so appreciative. I told SO I didn't care what he used the money for. He needed it more than we did. Once the money left our hands, it was no longer our concern what he spent it on.

Quoting doodlebut:

She was probably buying crap food cause that's all she could afford. I never knew that helping people came with stipulations based on your approval. Either help or don't, but leave your preferences out of it.

 

Mom2theboy1994
by on Jun. 12, 2012 at 5:52 PM
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My husband had something like that happen! A guy stopped him as he was going into a bbq joint and asked him for money to eat. My husband never carries cash, but bought the guy a sandwich. The guy looked my husband in the eye and threw the sandwich in the trash.

My husband is very wary about offering help now. I on the other hand and I giant sucker, lol.

Quoting Wendykay1:

Once when i had just finished shopping and was putting my groceries in my car a young woman came up to me with her daughter (im guessing around 4 / 5yrs old) and asked if I could give her a few bucks so she could give buy her daughter mcdonalds. I told her no but that I would be happy to purchase her some groceries at the store. I was struggling at the time but was willing to help her out.

The lady said fu I want the cash. I told her I couldn't help her out then. as they walked away the lady flipped me off and her daughter did the same.

I COULDN'T BELIEVE MY EYES!


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