I am going to go insane. I have NEVER disliked a child like I dislike him.
He is 17 years old and does not respect anyone. He will not listen to me. His dad has to tell him what to do because he will blantaly ignore me. This will NOT fly considering his dad will be working all day during the summer and I will be home alone with them. Here are some things that have happened since he's been here(2 months)
We have 1 laptop. It belongs to my daughter, her father bought it for her for Christmas. We all use the laptop and today I made her let SS use it. He had it for about 4 hours when she went in there and told him she wanted it back. He told her no so she told me. I told her to go back and tell him I said give it to her right now.
I'm in the kitchen and I hear him tell her and this is a direct quote "NO! I'm tired of this. I'm taking this laptop and putting it right here and no one will touch it and you can get out of my room right now"
I was so shocked that for 1 he thought that would fly and for 2 he would be like that after she let him use it for FOUR hours!
Another thing that happened 2 weeks ago....his room is directly below mine so I can hear everything that goes on in there. He plays video games very loudly and at certain times I ask him to turn them down. I had a migraine so I needed to take a nap in complete darkness and silence, otherwise it would last for days and I wouldn't be able to function. So I tell him he needs to turn down the video games for about 2 hours.
Everything is fine for about 20 minutes until he turns them back up. When I confront him again he says I don't know what I'm talking about that he turned it down. Um no. I am standing in the room and can hear it!! I had to go back and forth with him about turning a stupid video game down for near 40 minutes until finally I had enough. I took the game out, stuck it in my drawer and went to sleep.
The final story I will tell today......together we have 4 children. I have 2 from a previous marriage, DH has SS, and we have 1 daughter together. The 3 oldest(my 2 from previous and SS) are supposed to alternate chores. My daughter's job is to take care of the dining room table and living room while SS and my son take care of the kitchen. Sometimes they don't get their chores done and that's fine but the one chore I require the 2 boys to do every other day is take out the trash. Not that hard right? They both alternate it.
So I ask SS to do it and he freaks out. Saying "oh my god, i'm the only one who does anything around here" and calling my children lazy, saying we don't make them do anything! Why couldn't he just do it? It would take all of 3 minutes. Instead he argued with me for nearly an hour about it and insulted me and my children.
I have been in his life since he was 7 years old. He does not visit often but when he does he has never been this bad. He was a very active child but never this rude! I don't know what has happened.