I think attachment parenting is pretty creepy
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I mean, don't get me wrong, all kids should be loved and shown affection, but this whole "attachment parenting" seems to be a little twisted to me. These women have got to have some sort of issues somewhere with affection. To have to go THAT far to ensure your kid is loved. Or are you trying to find ways to avoid spending intimate time with ur SO?
And if you are going to practice this, I hope dearly that you don't have a son! There's nothing more irritating to me than a mommys boy who was obviously coddled way too much. I like my men to be MEN so most women do. As time goes by, these boys are more and more wimpy.
If your child can drink from a cup and eat the same dinner as you, why is he still on breast milk? Would you judge me if you saw my 4,5,6 yr old in public with a bottle full of formula?
We aren't kangaroos, let them be independent!
Are you serious?
Have you read any books about child development? Anything about the need for a secure attachment to foster independence?
Honestly. The most high maintenance, least educated adults and older children I know were parented, well... like crap. :/
It's just a fact about breast milk and formula. It's a sensitive fact, due to formula companies and history.
attachment parenting and breast feeding have nothing to do with each other.
Quoting white_wolf454:well if you cant do what you were made to do dont that mean something is wrong with you and your inferior to a mom who can give what is needed to the baby?
Quoting areyouatroll:
So because formula is inferior to breast milk, so is the mom?
Quoting white_wolf454:I cant Brest feed and I dont got the Money for a wet nurse . I suppose that makes me an inferior mommy huh
Quoting LaughCryLive:
Formula from a bottle is inferior to breast milk from the breast and canny be compared to each other. So creepy to raise children the way nature intended. *rolls eyes*
Of course there are extremist, just like any group, but overall AP is very laid back and go with the flow.
Quoting Sunshine257:That doesn't sound too bad?
Quoting areyouatroll:
Attachment Parenting: What's the Deal? Posted by Suzanne Murray on Aug 14, 2009 at 7:38 AM
Take this short quiz: Mom A breastfeeds, babywears, and co-sleeps. Mom B bottle-feeds, uses a stroller, and a crib. Which mom do you think is practicing Attachment Parenting?
The answer: It could be both of them or neither of them. Or yes, just one of them (but not the one you might think).
According to catholicmamamia's lovely and informative journal post Explaining Attachment Parenting (she's a professional AP Instructor),"It is a common misconception that attachment parenting consists solely of breastfeeding, babywearing, and a crib.
Attachment Parenting is not parenting method, it is not new, and it was not created by some doctor or a team of professionals. AP is a term lent to the style of parenting that was originally and instinctively practiced before the so-called professionals stepped in and began convincing parents to not trust their instincts or follow their hearts.
Think of a mom who is disconnected from her child. She breastfeeds and baby reaps nutritional and immunological benefits, but she does not stroke baby's skin or talk sweetly. She may use a sling but only because it makes doing what she wants easier. She may co-sleep, but only because she can get more sleep and does not snuggle baby at all. She does not put her heart into mothering.
Now think of a different mom, one whose health limits her mothering practices. She cannot breastfeed, so she is resigned to bottle-feed. She cannot wear her baby, so she uses a stroller. She cannot co-sleep, so she keeps a crib in her room. Her mothering practices do not include nursing, slings, and family bed. Yet this mother loves and adores her baby and spends every moment possible playing, reading, snuggling with her child. she anticipates her child's needs, both physical and emotional, and meets them to the best of her ability. Her body has 'failed' her, but she will not fail her child. She is a loving and devoted mom.
The ultimate goal of Attachment Parenting is to parent instinctively and gently in a manner that helps form stronger parent-child connections, allowing parents to raise children who are strong, intelligent, and compassionate."
Quoting Sunshine257:What is attachment parenting?
I agree! I really feel like it's only beneficial for mom. You can make your kids know that they're loved and give them affection but not breastfeed until age 6 and have "Family bed" for years. I was talking to an "attachment mom" who said she even takes daily baths and showers with her two kids.
It's like these women are terrified of what may happen if they leave their kids alone...
Quoting iluv2meow:I am with you OP because I think the parents that are trying to practice the "attachment parenting" tend to take it a little too far. I know of several people (my own mother/brother, aunt/cousin, friends/sons) where the moms (my mom, aunt, & friends) supposedly doing this "attachment parenting" only they over do it so much that now these sons are unmarried, living at home with momma, a few dropped out of high school, my brother has never finished college and they are in their early to late 30s.
Nothing is more disgusting seeing momma and grown son living together like husband and wife.
This.
My aunt breastfed until my cousin was 4. She did "Family bed" and she also home-schooled him his entire life.
He's 21, living at home still and has no job. He was so sheltered in his life, he never got to really get out and got to experience the real world. Now it's too hard and scary.
Quoting areyouatroll:
Lol at your idea of attachment parenting. You have no clue
Attachment Parenting: What's the Deal? Posted by Suzanne Murray on Aug 14, 2009 at 7:38 AM
Take this short quiz: Mom A breastfeeds, babywears, and co-sleeps. Mom B bottle-feeds, uses a stroller, and a crib. Which mom do you think is practicing Attachment Parenting?
The answer: It could be both of them or neither of them. Or yes, just one of them (but not the one you might think).
According to catholicmamamia's lovely and informative journal post Explaining Attachment Parenting (she's a professional AP Instructor),"It is a common misconception that attachment parenting consists solely of breastfeeding, babywearing, and a crib.
Attachment Parenting is not parenting method, it is not new, and it was not created by some doctor or a team of professionals. AP is a term lent to the style of parenting that was originally and instinctively practiced before the so-called professionals stepped in and began convincing parents to not trust their instincts or follow their hearts.
Think of a mom who is disconnected from her child. She breastfeeds and baby wears for nutritional and immunological benefits, but she does not stroke baby's skin or talk sweetly. She may use a sling but only because it makes doing what she wants easier. She may co-sleep, but only because she can get more sleep and does not snuggle baby at all. She does not put her heart into mothering.
Now think of a different mom, one whose health limits her mothering practices. She cannot breastfeed, so she is resigned to bottle-feed. She cannot wear her baby, so she uses a stroller. She cannot co-sleep, so she keeps a crib in her room. Her mothering practices do not include nursing, slings, and family bed. Yet this mother loves and adores her baby and spends every moment possible playing, reading, snuggling with her child. she anticipates her child's needs, both physical and emotional, and meets them to the best of her ability. Her body has 'failed' her, but she will not fail her child. She is a loving and devoted mom.
The ultimate goal of Attachment Parenting is to parent instinctively and gently in a manner that helps form stronger parent-child connections, allowing parents to raise children who are strong, intelligent, and compassionate."
I practicing AP to an extent but bath time is her time. She eats in a high chair or sitting at her "big kid" kids table too. Im sorry I need my bath/shower time to myself lol.
Quoting KristyCat:I agree! I really feel like it's only beneficial for mom. You can make your kids know that they're loved and give them affection but not breastfeed until age 6 and have "Family bed" for years. I was talking to an "attachment mom" who said she even takes daily baths and showers with her two kids.
It's like these women are terrified of what may happen if they leave their kids alone...
I agree! Attachment parenting does a huge disservice to children and is in my opinion, why we have a generation of lazy, entitled, and co dependant adults.
They are trying to ban buying soda from FS
Do you REGRET having kids