I think attachment parenting is pretty creepy
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I mean, don't get me wrong, all kids should be loved and shown affection, but this whole "attachment parenting" seems to be a little twisted to me. These women have got to have some sort of issues somewhere with affection. To have to go THAT far to ensure your kid is loved. Or are you trying to find ways to avoid spending intimate time with ur SO?
And if you are going to practice this, I hope dearly that you don't have a son! There's nothing more irritating to me than a mommys boy who was obviously coddled way too much. I like my men to be MEN so most women do. As time goes by, these boys are more and more wimpy.
If your child can drink from a cup and eat the same dinner as you, why is he still on breast milk? Would you judge me if you saw my 4,5,6 yr old in public with a bottle full of formula?
We aren't kangaroos, let them be independent!
Quoting a5hl3yC:I get so sick of seeing formula mothers put down when some of us really honestly didn't have a choice or it was an extremely difficult one to make.
So those kids who did use formula for whatever reason should what just start milk right away or try to find a "real mom" who cares?
Quoting LaughCryLive:
No need. I just choose to educate myself. Instead of bowing down maybe you should do the same.
Quoting Anonymous:
Inferior to breast milk? Oh mighty mom I shall bow down to your presence!!
Oh stfu and get over yourself.
Quoting LaughCryLive:
Formula from a bottle is inferior to breast milk from the breast and canny be compared to each other. So creepy to raise children the way nature intended. *rolls eyes*
In can tell you exactly what AP is because I am married into a family that would blow your mind. My mother in law would have given anything if her four boys would have stayed under her roof until she passed away. One actually does he is 40 yrs old and living at home with mom and daddy with his two teenage kids. He loves to start crap with the rest of the family and she never says a word to him but the rest of us get the 3rd degree if we say one word against him.
I do agree there are different leaves to this but I also wanted my children to grow up with a strong sense of self and independence, Just because they have this does not mean that did not get plenty of love growing up because they did.
i think people trying to make 3 year old little girls dress and act like they are grown is creepy. why dose a little toddler need high heels, a coach purse and an iphone? i think its also think its creepy for parents to not cuddle and hug and kiss their children and to force them to be independant
I think this topic can mean a wide range of things and the OP should have been a little more detailed on what she thinks is "creepy". Yes a mother and son living together like husband and wife because the son was too sheltered all his life IS CREEPY, bathing with your children PAST A CERTAIN AGE, creepy also! but IMO co sleeping and breastfeeding are not something that would make me look twice, it is natural and the best for the child! And I will be a AP mother until I feel my son is ready for independence or he chooses that route on his own :)
i don't think ap is what is turning kids into entitled little brats. it's giving them what ever the heck they want. no discipline. not showing love and affection.
How is it sad? Our son is extremely healthy, loved beyond belief and happy. We do tons together as a family, but he's an independent kid. I was too. I loved doing things on my own. Just becuz ur idea of being a "good" parent is attachment parenting, doesn't mean mine is! There are HUNDREDS of ways to parent a child and raise them good. Mine isn't yours, but mine works perfectly. I refuse to co-sleep becuz I'm not comfortable w/ it, I don't wear my kids cuz my son HATED it (screamed for 20 min in the baby carrier multiple times), and I'm not a coddling type of parent.
Before judging the parenting of others, find out if it works. Lol.Quoting eykelley:I do agree with you somewhat! My DS is completely independant at 5 years old. He doesn't need us for anything really. He can make his own lunch, dress himself, take a shower on his own, he plays for HOURS on his own. I mean, we do LOTS of things with him, and have fun but I was never into the attachment thing. DS slept in a craddle next to the bed cuz I breast fed him. He was then in his own crib at 3 months old, we didn't even have a baby monitor in our apt. He slept through the night by that point, I let him CIO when he just wanted to cry, if I put him on his tummy and he got whiney I let him lay there for awhile and he learned to play on his tummy. He was was in a toddler bed at 15 months old and has been independant ever since. I BF'd him for 4 months until my supply dropped and I got frustrated and stopped. I never wore him, I never coddled him, but he is STILL a momma's boy.
If he falls and scrapes his knee or something, he gets up, brushes himself off and goes on. He NEVER cries. lol. I will be the same way with DD who is due September 1st. I plan to BF a bit longer of course, gonna try and make it to a year, but I wont be sad as long as I make it 6 months lol.
I LOVE spending time with my DH. He is my whole world and I feel sometimes like he was afraid to be left behind when my DS was born. I made sure he knew he was still top notch to me. He came first, and he'll always be #1 in my book. :)
Quoting eykelley:I do agree with you somewhat! My DS is completely independant at 5 years old. He doesn't need us for anything really. He can make his own lunch, dress himself, take a shower on his own, he plays for HOURS on his own. I mean, we do LOTS of things with him, and have fun but I was never into the attachment thing. DS slept in a craddle next to the bed cuz I breast fed him. He was then in his own crib at 3 months old, we didn't even have a baby monitor in our apt. He slept through the night by that point, I let him CIO when he just wanted to cry, if I put him on his tummy and he got whiney I let him lay there for awhile and he learned to play on his tummy. He was was in a toddler bed at 15 months old and has been independant ever since. I BF'd him for 4 months until my supply dropped and I got frustrated and stopped. I never wore him, I never coddled him, but he is STILL a momma's boy.
If he falls and scrapes his knee or something, he gets up, brushes himself off and goes on. He NEVER cries. lol. I will be the same way with DD who is due September 1st. I plan to BF a bit longer of course, gonna try and make it to a year, but I wont be sad as long as I make it 6 months lol.
I LOVE spending time with my DH. He is my whole world and I feel sometimes like he was afraid to be left behind when my DS was born. I made sure he knew he was still top notch to me. He came first, and he'll always be #1 in my book. :)
Quoting eykelley:
What do u mean? My DS started sleeping through the night at 3 months! He slept in his own room and I checked on him several times to be sure he was ok. We lived in a tiny 2 bedroom apt so I could hear him anytime he cried. I fed him when he was hungry, changed him when he needed to be changed and cuddled with him on the couch. Lol.
Quoting Anonymous:I think you shouldn't have had a child if you didn't want to be a great parent to him, poor baby knows mommy loves daddy, and you may like him, but jesus, you seemed to want to get over a baby real quick so that your life can revolve around your husband. At some point he was going to need to learn independence, but to figure it out as a baby that you weren't coming to feed or check on him is just sad
Quoting eykelley:
Sounds like me! Haha. My son is 5 and totally independent. DH and I aren't parents who coddle, our DS knows we love him. That's all that matters.
Quoting Grumpylilpixy:I am raising all boys and let me tell you,
they will be men, they need to be independent, well rounded men. Not a bunch of babies who are going to be on my tit for a life time. I have a life of my own I don't need to keep my children babies.
MY 5 year old knows if he wants something in the kitchen then he knows how to go get it.
And the other day I grabbed him and pulled him towards me and kissed his little cheek and he looked at me and smiled and said "You just love me soo much". But yet I discipline and make him do for himself and yet he knows mom loves him so much.
My older boys tell me all day they hate me. Whatever, then I know I am doing my job. And one day this will all click and I will have AWESOME MEN.
Could not have been said any better! twisted world!
Quoting SimplyErathy:i think people trying to make 3 year old little girls dress and act like they are grown is creepy. why dose a little toddler need high heels, a coach purse and an iphone? i think its also think its creepy for parents to not cuddle and hug and kiss their children and to force them to be independant
The kangaroo comment made me chuckle, but seriously.. you sound like an idiot.
Quoting areyouatroll:
Lol at your idea of attachment parenting. You have no clue
Attachment Parenting: What's the Deal? Posted by Suzanne Murray on Aug 14, 2009 at 7:38 AM
Take this short quiz: Mom A breastfeeds, babywears, and co-sleeps. Mom B bottle-feeds, uses a stroller, and a crib. Which mom do you think is practicing Attachment Parenting?
The answer: It could be both of them or neither of them. Or yes, just one of them (but not the one you might think).
According to catholicmamamia's lovely and informative journal post Explaining Attachment Parenting (she's a professional AP Instructor),"It is a common misconception that attachment parenting consists solely of breastfeeding, babywearing, and a crib.
Attachment Parenting is not parenting method, it is not new, and it was not created by some doctor or a team of professionals. AP is a term lent to the style of parenting that was originally and instinctively practiced before the so-called professionals stepped in and began convincing parents to not trust their instincts or follow their hearts.
Think of a mom who is disconnected from her child. She breastfeeds and baby wears for nutritional and immunological benefits, but she does not stroke baby's skin or talk sweetly. She may use a sling but only because it makes doing what she wants easier. She may co-sleep, but only because she can get more sleep and does not snuggle baby at all. She does not put her heart into mothering.
Now think of a different mom, one whose health limits her mothering practices. She cannot breastfeed, so she is resigned to bottle-feed. She cannot wear her baby, so she uses a stroller. She cannot co-sleep, so she keeps a crib in her room. Her mothering practices do not include nursing, slings, and family bed. Yet this mother loves and adores her baby and spends every moment possible playing, reading, snuggling with her child. she anticipates her child's needs, both physical and emotional, and meets them to the best of her ability. Her body has 'failed' her, but she will not fail her child. She is a loving and devoted mom.
The ultimate goal of Attachment Parenting is to parent instinctively and gently in a manner that helps form stronger parent-child connections, allowing parents to raise children who are strong, intelligent, and compassionate."
That's the ugliest name everrrr!!!