I think attachment parenting is pretty creepy
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I mean, don't get me wrong, all kids should be loved and shown affection, but this whole "attachment parenting" seems to be a little twisted to me. These women have got to have some sort of issues somewhere with affection. To have to go THAT far to ensure your kid is loved. Or are you trying to find ways to avoid spending intimate time with ur SO?
And if you are going to practice this, I hope dearly that you don't have a son! There's nothing more irritating to me than a mommys boy who was obviously coddled way too much. I like my men to be MEN so most women do. As time goes by, these boys are more and more wimpy.
If your child can drink from a cup and eat the same dinner as you, why is he still on breast milk? Would you judge me if you saw my 4,5,6 yr old in public with a bottle full of formula?
We aren't kangaroos, let them be independent!
Quoting white_wolf454:
well if you cant do what you were made to do dont that mean something is wrong with you and your inferior to a mom who can give what is needed to the baby?
Quoting areyouatroll:
So because formula is inferior to breast milk, so is the mom?
Quoting white_wolf454:
I cant Brest feed and I dont got the Money for a wet nurse . I suppose that makes me an inferior mommy huh
Quoting LaughCryLive:
Formula from a bottle is inferior to breast milk from the breast and canny be compared to each other. So creepy to raise children the way nature intended. *rolls eyes*
Only if you have self esteem issues. The fact that you cannot breastfeed doesn't make formula a better choice-or as good a choice-it soimply makes it your only choice.
If you want to use your own issues to turn that into something else, guess you are free to do so.
Breastfeeding is recommended for a minimum of two years. It doesn't hinder them, they still do everything else a 'normal' child does, they just nurse once in a while. I'm nursing my 22 month old, and am pregnant. I will tandem nurse if she is still wanting to breastfeed after the baby is born.
I wear my babies pretty much 24/7 during the first few months, and it continues until they are at least 2/3 years old. We don't use strollers.
We co sleep for most of the first year, and I would never leave a baby or child to cry. It doesn't have a negative impact in my relationship with my husband LOL. It allows us to be a lot more creative :)
Same. Shower time is Kristy time. Leave me alone lol
Quoting briellesmomma:
That is extreme.
I practicing AP to an extent but bath time is her time. She eats in a high chair or sitting at her "big kid" kids table too. Im sorry I need my bath/shower time to myself lol.
Quoting KristyCat:I agree! I really feel like it's only beneficial for mom. You can make your kids know that they're loved and give them affection but not breastfeed until age 6 and have "Family bed" for years. I was talking to an "attachment mom" who said she even takes daily baths and showers with her two kids.
It's like these women are terrified of what may happen if they leave their kids alone...
Right. Like if they know "Well, mom loves me and if I so much as whimper she comes running, why should I do ___ for myself?"
I love the hell out of my daughter and she'll know it. I'm a very affectionate person, but I also don't keep kids in my line of vision every. solitary. second. I want her to make mistakes and learn from them. I want her to want to do things on her own.
Is she the center of my universe? Yeah. But she doesn't need to be on my boob until age 5 to know that!
Quoting amberbrianne:I agree! Attachment parenting does a huge disservice to children and is in my opinion, why we have a generation of lazy, entitled, and co dependant adults.
Quoting Anonymous:
Why abbreviate if your just going to spell it out anyway?You're = you are. Your = possessive, like your book.
Quoting Anonymous:
Well don't worry my ds is to young for you anyway. I kiss his boo boos at 5yo. I cuddle him when he is scared GTFOI(GET THE FUCK OVER IT)
Eh, I think neglectful parenting is the creepy kind.
And totally true about pediasure - it is made by the company that owns Similac and has almost the exact same ingredients as regular formula.
Quoting Kelseyciarah:You OBVIOUSLY have no idea what attachment parenting REALLY is.
It is so much more than breastfeeding.
And in comparison, if you give your 4,5,6,7 year old pediasure or whatever, its essentially the same idea as formula.
Furthermore, breastmilk is good for you no matter how old you are.... Why does the majority of the general public drinki milk from a COW'S BREAST? Nutritional value.
I sometimes express breastmilk in a cup and give it to my 20 month old son when he is sick, its wonderful for him. And if I he hadnt self weaned at a year old, I would still give it to him straight from the tap!
Educate yourself, seriously, you will learn a lot.
first of all breast milk is better than formula that's why formula tries to be like breast milk and not the other way around. that's a fact that has nothing to do with parenting. that's just science. i'll say that all my kids have been fed with formula so i'm not called a militant breast feeder :)
second of all just like everything else in our culture of constant media AP has only been represented to people who aren't familiar with it by extreme cases. in my opinion all attachment parent boils down to is trusting your instincts when your mind and parenting book tell you to do different things. look at the baby and not the book, web page, etc.
i'm of the opinion that most moms do "attachment" parenting and don't realize it because of it being represented in the constant media blast only by the extreme cases. it's not a "parenting style" it's just trusting your instincts.
are you ok with another woman calling your husband "hun" or "babe"