My son just became a teen dad and i hate that i'm thrilled update w more info **more info** UPDATE!!!!!!!!!!!
For the record, I am not an advocate for teen pregnancy, but I have reasons to be happy for this baby that I can never say out loud.
My son is a great kid. He's smart, polite, and has never gotten into trouble. He has had issues at school, though, with bullying. He has always been sensitive and a bit effeminate. Not over the top effeminate, but to the point that everyone has for years assumed that he was gay. He has never had a girlfriend or a boyfriend for that matter. In fact the only mention he has ever made regarding his sexual orientation was a profession of love for a teen pop star. We thought it was like liking Barbra Streisand or Liza Minelli.
His father and I have always remained silent on his sexuality, although we have discussed it in private. We pride ourselves on being progressive and caring about human rights. We would always love and support both of our children, no matter what. Still, deep in my heart of hearts, I found myself praying that he wouldn't be gay.
Last night he told us that his pregnant best friend had given birth and that he was the father. He told us that he deeply loves her and their child. I talked to her and she told me why she loves him.
I know that as teen parents they will face great obstacles. I find myself happy about this baby, though, and worse - happy that he isn't gay. Am I a bad person for feeling like this?
There is no financial reason for either of them to lie about this. She has her own money and has been emanicipated for 2 years. She owns her own home already. She believed that her rapist was the father. He was white. She is white. My son is biracial- I am white and my husband is black. The baby is clearly part black and looks just like my son.
Her money is from child modelling. She is emancipated and takes care of herself. We live in a small midwestern town where property is fairly cheap. Both are gifted students and take AP classes and dual enrollment. Both will graduate high school with Associate Degrees early, in December instead of May.
They had the DNA test taken from the cord blood at the hospital. They were doing the test anyway for additional evidence in the rape case.
I genuinely believe that he loves her. He looks at her like she is his entire world and she seems to love him as well.
Last night he talked more about things. This is what he said to us when my husband asked why he didn't say anything when people at school called him gay.
"I'm not gay and I never have been. M-- isn't my first girlfriend, she's just the one I fell in love with. When they called me gay and stuff at school I didn't correct anybody because I don't think it's some crime to be gay. It isn't like they said I murdered someone or anything. It isn't anybody's business whether I'm gay or not anyway. I know there are a couple of guys who are gay, but they are afraid to admit it to people. I don't think they should have to be."
She said that his "martyrdom" regarding his sexuality was one of the things that drew her to him.
DNA test came back today. He is the father! We didn't really doubt it, but we have our proof.