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[Anonymous]

I was raped. 

Ask me anything

[jonellg]

I went off it when I hadmy kids as well, that does affect things.

Quoting Anonymous:

i was on ambien until i had my son last year. now im afraid to take it out of fear i wont hear him in the middle of the night

Quoting jonellg:

I couldn't live with out them. I take ambein to helpme sleep nightmare free and Effexor to keep me from killing people.

Quoting Anonymous:

i am trying it again. meds im not sure about. 

Quoting jonellg:

Therapy helps, and so deoes medication :)

Quoting Anonymous:

i didnt think i would be. but theres always hope you know. im sorry it happened to you. i wouldnt wish this on my worst enemy

Quoting jonellg:

You'll never be past it. But life becomeslivable after a while. Mine was in 2004, these days I only think about it a few times a day instead of all damn day.

Quoting Anonymous:

im waiting for it to get easier. when i think im passed it it turns out im not

Quoting jonellg:

It gets easier as time goes by but it never goes away.

Quoting Anonymous:

more than i can say

Quoting jonellg:

me too sucks huh?

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

he had night terrors for just over a year after. wouldnt let me out of his sight for the longest time. he has no problem being away from me now but if me and dh fight he is right there yelling at dh telling him that he will protect me and save me :(

Quoting bullemhead:

 I would have him seen for sure. It sounds like he is developing some attachment issues and possibly some underlying anxiety. I so sincerely hope the best for both of you.

Quoting Anonymous:

ive tried 3 times. im on my 4th time.  ds never did but pedi thinks he should be evaluated cuz he is so alert.  hes very protective of me. telling me he will protect me and save me.  even if me and dh get into a little argument he is there telling dh ill protect mommy

Quoting bullemhead:

 Oh God that just gives me chills to even think about. I can't imagine the horror you must have suffered. I'm so sorry for both you and your son. Have you gotten counseling for both of you?

Quoting Anonymous:

some days are better than others. last few days have been terrible. ds4 was 23 months at the time and he witnessed it.  that still kills me inside to this day

Quoting bullemhead:

 I'm sorry. How are you doing emotionally?

Quoting Anonymous:

neighbor who i thought was a friend

my apt

3 yrs ago

Quoting bullemhead:

 Tell me more. Who,what,where,when?

 

 

 

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

yea it does but until he is sleeping in his bed and a little older i cant take it

Quoting jonellg:

I went off it when I hadmy kids as well, that does affect things.

Quoting Anonymous:

i was on ambien until i had my son last year. now im afraid to take it out of fear i wont hear him in the middle of the night

Quoting jonellg:

I couldn't live with out them. I take ambein to helpme sleep nightmare free and Effexor to keep me from killing people.

Quoting Anonymous:

i am trying it again. meds im not sure about. 

Quoting jonellg:

Therapy helps, and so deoes medication :)

Quoting Anonymous:

i didnt think i would be. but theres always hope you know. im sorry it happened to you. i wouldnt wish this on my worst enemy

Quoting jonellg:

You'll never be past it. But life becomeslivable after a while. Mine was in 2004, these days I only think about it a few times a day instead of all damn day.

Quoting Anonymous:

im waiting for it to get easier. when i think im passed it it turns out im not

Quoting jonellg:

It gets easier as time goes by but it never goes away.

Quoting Anonymous:

more than i can say

Quoting jonellg:

me too sucks huh?

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

thank you.  strange as it sounds talking on here helps me.  idk why but it does

Quoting allycally:

Im sorry ur having a rough time right now

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

thank you. i hope something helps

Quoting TxCowGirl07:

sorry to hear about it.  Hope you can find some help in therapy.

[bullemhead]

 Yeah, I would definitely have him seen. The other concern is, it may impact his ability to bond with male figures in his life i.e. daddy,uncles etc. Poor little guy.

Quoting Anonymous:

he had night terrors for just over a year after. wouldnt let me out of his sight for the longest time. he has no problem being away from me now but if me and dh fight he is right there yelling at dh telling him that he will protect me and save me :(

Quoting bullemhead:

 I would have him seen for sure. It sounds like he is developing some attachment issues and possibly some underlying anxiety. I so sincerely hope the best for both of you.

Quoting Anonymous:

ive tried 3 times. im on my 4th time.  ds never did but pedi thinks he should be evaluated cuz he is so alert.  hes very protective of me. telling me he will protect me and save me.  even if me and dh get into a little argument he is there telling dh ill protect mommy

Quoting bullemhead:

 Oh God that just gives me chills to even think about. I can't imagine the horror you must have suffered. I'm so sorry for both you and your son. Have you gotten counseling for both of you?

Quoting Anonymous:

some days are better than others. last few days have been terrible. ds4 was 23 months at the time and he witnessed it.  that still kills me inside to this day

Quoting bullemhead:

 I'm sorry. How are you doing emotionally?

Quoting Anonymous:

neighbor who i thought was a friend

my apt

3 yrs ago

Quoting bullemhead:

 Tell me more. Who,what,where,when?

 

 

 

 

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

he has an awesome relationship with dh.  but when it comes it me.......well yea

Quoting bullemhead:

 Yeah, I would definitely have him seen. The other concern is, it may impact his ability to bond with male figures in his life i.e. daddy,uncles etc. Poor little guy.

Quoting Anonymous:

he had night terrors for just over a year after. wouldnt let me out of his sight for the longest time. he has no problem being away from me now but if me and dh fight he is right there yelling at dh telling him that he will protect me and save me :(

Quoting bullemhead:

 I would have him seen for sure. It sounds like he is developing some attachment issues and possibly some underlying anxiety. I so sincerely hope the best for both of you.

Quoting Anonymous:

ive tried 3 times. im on my 4th time.  ds never did but pedi thinks he should be evaluated cuz he is so alert.  hes very protective of me. telling me he will protect me and save me.  even if me and dh get into a little argument he is there telling dh ill protect mommy

Quoting bullemhead:

 Oh God that just gives me chills to even think about. I can't imagine the horror you must have suffered. I'm so sorry for both you and your son. Have you gotten counseling for both of you?

Quoting Anonymous:

some days are better than others. last few days have been terrible. ds4 was 23 months at the time and he witnessed it.  that still kills me inside to this day

Quoting bullemhead:

 I'm sorry. How are you doing emotionally?

Quoting Anonymous:

neighbor who i thought was a friend

my apt

3 yrs ago

Quoting bullemhead:

 Tell me more. Who,what,where,when?

 

 

 

 

[TxCowGirl07]

Just remember, it was not your fault it happened.  You have nothing to be ashamed of.  If you ever want to talk in private, just page me.

Quoting Anonymous:

thank you. i hope something helps

Quoting TxCowGirl07:

sorry to hear about it.  Hope you can find some help in therapy.

[bullemhead]

 It will get better. I just know it will.

Quoting Anonymous:

he has an awesome relationship with dh.  but when it comes it me.......well yea

Quoting bullemhead:

 Yeah, I would definitely have him seen. The other concern is, it may impact his ability to bond with male figures in his life i.e. daddy,uncles etc. Poor little guy.

Quoting Anonymous:

he had night terrors for just over a year after. wouldnt let me out of his sight for the longest time. he has no problem being away from me now but if me and dh fight he is right there yelling at dh telling him that he will protect me and save me :(

Quoting bullemhead:

 I would have him seen for sure. It sounds like he is developing some attachment issues and possibly some underlying anxiety. I so sincerely hope the best for both of you.

Quoting Anonymous:

ive tried 3 times. im on my 4th time.  ds never did but pedi thinks he should be evaluated cuz he is so alert.  hes very protective of me. telling me he will protect me and save me.  even if me and dh get into a little argument he is there telling dh ill protect mommy

Quoting bullemhead:

 Oh God that just gives me chills to even think about. I can't imagine the horror you must have suffered. I'm so sorry for both you and your son. Have you gotten counseling for both of you?

Quoting Anonymous:

some days are better than others. last few days have been terrible. ds4 was 23 months at the time and he witnessed it.  that still kills me inside to this day

Quoting bullemhead:

 I'm sorry. How are you doing emotionally?

Quoting Anonymous:

neighbor who i thought was a friend

my apt

3 yrs ago

Quoting bullemhead:

 Tell me more. Who,what,where,when?

 

 

 

 

 

[purpleducky]

So sorry. It sucks. Finding a good therapist is hard too. But if you want to talk, I am here. Also, you can check out my siggy for some resources.