He says he was never molested...

[Anonymous]

I say he was. My ex-husband and I were talking over lunch today. One conversation leads to another anyway he tells me that when he was may 5 or 6, he remembers hanging out with an older male cousin (teenage) and there were always older women around. Well, he tells me that some of these women would kiss him (the way you would kiss your spouse or boyfriend). I told him, he was molested. He says that's not possible if he liked it. Could that possibly explain his obsession with sex and women? (Which obviously led to the divorce).

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure. I would say it was inappropriate but if she didn't touch his genitals or force him to touch hers then I don't think it was molestation but maybe I'm wrong idk

[jshalas89]

That's a toughy. Idk if it's considered "molestation" but it was definitely wrong to do and just plain weird and creepy. I'd say no to the question. I think he's just man.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

what i did was flip the scenario and said "what if that was our daughter?" who happens to be 6. He said that was different. But to me it's not. whether a 6 year old is male or female it's wrong. but you're right it is creepy. what adult woman would want to stick her tongue in a child's mouth. it's sick.

Quoting jshalas89:

That's a toughy. Idk if it's considered "molestation" but it was definitely wrong to do and just plain weird and creepy. I'd say no to the question. I think he's just man.

[xtwistedxlovex]

Not sure either...but it is a common misconception that liking it and/or feeling good means it wasn't abuse. A) children can be groomed to accept it and B) we are designed to feel good from certain things regardless of whether we want to or actually like it.

This page makes it seem as though it would be considered a sexual offense: http://www.shukumisa.org.za/index.php/sexual-offences-children/

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm not sure. I would say it was inappropriate but if she didn't touch his genitals or force him to touch hers then I don't think it was molestation but maybe I'm wrong idk

[mommasbabies77]

Molested yes. Liking it doesn't make it any less wrong and gender doesn't either.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

What you said. I did tell him that even though it may have felt good to him, it was still wrong. But I stopped there. I don't know everything about the subject so I don't want to be making things up. You know?

Quoting xtwistedxlovex:

Not sure either...but it is a common misconception that liking it and/or feeling good means it wasn't abuse. A) children can be groomed to accept it and B) we are designed to feel good from certain things regardless of whether we want to or actually like it.

This page makes it seem as though it would be considered a sexual offense: http://www.shukumisa.org.za/index.php/sexual-offences-children/

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm not sure. I would say it was inappropriate but if she didn't touch his genitals or force him to touch hers then I don't think it was molestation but maybe I'm wrong idk

[Luv.My.Kidz]

I wouldn't say molested.. inappropriate yes.... But not molested

[LucyMom08]

6 year old child? Yes, molestation.

[shell3m]

yes it was wrong.  I think he's blowing it off because it was a woman doing "innocent" things to a boy BUT it's still SICK!  My friend was kissed and touched by an older woman when he was young and it still sickens him to think about to this day.  A child, ANY child, boy or girl should NEVER be kissed or touched like that by an adult.  Your poor hubby.  :(  

[Elle.tea.22]

Most kids who are molested think its a game. They aren't hurt so they don't think it's wrong and little kids masturbate too so when someone else does it for them try might not know its not supposed to happen. The minute an adult gets serious and starts asking questions they get nervous cause they're scared their in trouble or did something wrong, they might Even lie.