I don't buy it when a SAHM says her family can't afford for her to work *clarification*

[Anonymous]

If your family can't afford for you to work, how in the heck can a single mom afford to do it? I find it hilarious that some of the same women claiming that they can't work are the ones criticizing those on PA. If something happens to your little slice of heaven and you end up a single mom, what are you going to do? Since supposedly you can't afford to work when you have someone else supplying money for housing, food, and etc., how could you do it without them?

My point in posting this was that a lot of the people who are criticizing people on PA are SAHMs. How in the world can a single mom do it by herself without PA? I am not bashing SAHMs, but I think it's a bit hypocritical that these same women don't work themselves.

I have been a SAHM, I have been a single (widowed) mom, I have also been the sole provider for my family and part of a two income family. I honestly have to say it was easier to provide for my family on two incomes. I am not bitter or jealous of anyone. I just question why it is that so many SAHMs are rude or judgmental towards those on PA. In my opinion it is a case of  "There but for the grace of God go I."

[Beenhereforever]

Bump

[purpleducky]

Minimum wage doesn't pay for daycare.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

So how is a single mom supposed to do it?

Quoting purpleducky:

Minimum wage doesn't pay for daycare.

[xomrs.chase]

When daycare takes up the entire paycheck or more...

[alwayskk]

LOL ok. I've been in both situations and all I can say is that when someone rips the floatie out from under you, you learn how to swim real fast. That doesn't mean I could actually afford it when I was married. It means I learned to swim with 50 lbs strapped to my back.

[0Kit0]

Then, don't. I doubt there is a gun to your head.

[Anonymous]

Its called life insurance. If my DH were to pass id get 350 K Which would pay off our mortgage and car and leave a good chunk in the bank. Without those expenses I would be in a better position to find a job and afford daycare. As it is now id be working JUST to pay daycare tuition. What's the point of that?

[bmw29]

I'm pretty sure sure what most mean is that their family can't afford for them to work and keep the lifestyle the family is accustomed to. We homeschool so if I worked I would have to hire someone to teach our son or put him back in school. We don't want the latter and the former is illegal in our state.

[Anonymous]

The state has programs to help with daycare, but your income has to be pretty low for it to be applicable.