I quit my job so that I could be home with my child. I put him in daycare for about a month and couldn't stand it. I wanted to be there for him the great majority of the time. Unless dh, my mom, or my sister wanted to spend time with him. I don't care what others do with their children, but I personally wanted to be there for all the mile stones, all the challenges, and all the fun.
I spent at least that much on my education and left a job that paid 6 figures to stay home with my son. Spending time with him is worth more than any amount of money. I also have no fear that my dh will up and run. If he does, I'll go back to work.
Quoting all_4_my_son:I'd rather work and have my son at daycare for 8-10 hours, instead of setting around, not having stability (or a life) in the off chance that hubby decides to cut and run. Sure, you can set up an "emergency fund" but really, how far will that get a mother and a few kids? Plus, I didn't spend $50,000 for an education I'm not going to use.
And DS loves being at camp....he's on the science team and has been going on a lot of educational field trips. I love hearing about all the places he got go and all the things he saw during the day.
I don't spend my days "setting" around and do have stability and a life, but great generalization! Also, I used my college education for a number of years before I had children and when I return to work full-time will use it again. Education is never a waste.
And I completely agree with you, OP. I'm a SAHM and am very blessed to be, but my mom was a single working mother and SHE raised us. Not daycares, not babysitters -- she did.
Hang in there girl! Don't let people get you down :)
I used to work in a daycare and while we may care for your kid they are not our kids and we were not their moms..And I certainly never felt like I was raisnig anyone elses child so people who say that are ignorant..I loved my job but thats what it was a job
Total hours even with travel time is *MOST LIKELY* still fewer hours than a parent with weekend visitation gets, nobody ever considers them to be the primary parent. I don't understand how people don't see that.
Two of my kids were in daycare when they were little, two were not. Daycare did NOT raise my kids, even though they were there long hours. Quite honestly, it doesn't take a lot of skill or love to change diapers, and pick up after a toddler.
But, I stayed home while ALL of them were teenagers. The stakes are much higher, mistakes can be life altering, and you can't put 'em in daycare.
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