My SIL called us with 20 minutes notice asking if we could watch her 9yo daughter so she could go on a date.
Sure, why not?
When they got here, we were bickering about dishes. You could have cut the tension with a knife, but she left her here anyway, no big deal. We stuck to the plans.
I put my kids to bed (this was like, 9pm and we had to get up early this morning). So the 9yo had some of our dinner (she hadn't eaten yet) and hung out.
They leave and take my car to get gas for me.
SIL shows back up (about 12am) and this is when they were gone. She pulls up, blocking the driveway completely, thinking I am the one who is gone because they took my car.
She POUNDS on the door.
I open it. I say "Hi, they took off for a few minutes to go to the store..."
She walks RIGHT PAST ME, INTO MY HOUSE, goes into my oldest's bedroom, looks at him, then, goes into my bedroom (where the youngest sleeps) and looks around and looks at him. THEN, she grabs my mail off of the couch and takes it into the kitchen, sits at my table, and goes through my mail. Opened it. Everything.
She clearly has an issue with me. I tried communicating with her, since the kids weren't around, and I tried talking to her, like "How was your date?". Nope. She just sat, at my table, didn't say one word. Didn't even look at me. Walked all up through my entire house all up in my shit and didn't even have the decency to say "Hi" or so much as glance in my general direction. I was going to try to apologize for whatever it is that upset her that I may have done, because I know she doesn't like me. She just ignored me. All 3 times I tried talking with her.
This isn't the first time this has happened, I just didn't make it an issue. NOW I AM PISSED. I'm done. I told DH that next time I see her, assuming I'm not in her house, I'm checking her. You don't come into my house and disrespect me and walk all through my house into my bedroom and my kid's bedroom without saying one word.
She doesn't have to like me, I just want to be respected in my own house. She feels like this is her brother's house, not mine. Fuck all that. This is my shit, too. Regardless, she doesn't pay our bills, so in MY HOME, be at LEAST respectful.