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dating a man that's been hurt and thinks women are after what he has to offer as far as security?

Anonymous
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He's a Captain in the Marine Corp, about to be picked up for Major.. His ex wife did him dirty and used him for money. Now he's gun shy, I said I might not want to get married again, just engaged and live with the guy. He said he feels the same. I was thinking about it, and I might want to be married again. How do you date a man like this? We get along great and he says I'm different meaning he likes my openness and independence.

Posted by Anonymous on Jun. 16, 2012 at 3:59 PM
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vixen42
by on Jun. 16, 2012 at 4:03 PM

give it time because he has trust issues and be honest if you might want to get married again before you invest time with a guy who may never be ready for that.Also since he is military he can get counseling and it sounds like he could use it

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jun. 16, 2012 at 4:04 PM
Make sure he is actually divorced.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 16, 2012 at 4:06 PM

He is I saw the papers myself.

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Make sure he is actually divorced.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 16, 2012 at 4:07 PM

Thank you! Wonderful Advice.

Quoting vixen42:

give it time because he has trust issues and be honest if you might want to get married again before you invest time with a guy who may never be ready for that.Also since he is military he can get counseling and it sounds like he could use it


Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jun. 16, 2012 at 4:08 PM
What does his rank have to do with it?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jun. 16, 2012 at 4:09 PM
Certified copy I hope.

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He is I saw the papers myself.


Quoting Anonymous:

Make sure he is actually divorced.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 16, 2012 at 4:09 PM

He has dated women that only want him for what he has. 2 master degrees and so on.

Quoting Anonymous:

What does his rank have to do with it?


Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jun. 16, 2012 at 4:10 PM
Also since he is in the mil. its hard not to be married.
HIJKLM
by Ruby Member on Jun. 16, 2012 at 4:10 PM
I'd say just give it time. I was like that. For 2 years I told my guy I'd never remarry, have joint accounts, joint property, etc. after a while I changed my mind and we're getting married in November. Especially with him being military he might decide the benefits outweigh the risks. You could also suggest a prenup
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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 16, 2012 at 4:10 PM

Well the papers and from his wife's mouth since we are facebook friends.

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Certified copy I hope.

Quoting Anonymous:

He is I saw the papers myself.


Quoting Anonymous:

Make sure he is actually divorced.

 


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