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How old were you when it happened?
How many times did it happen?
Did you know the assailant?
Did you tell or keep it to yourself?
- I was molested twice....
The first time it happened I was 4 years old - it was my babysitters sister who molested me (I didn't know her that well) - I was at a birthday party for my babysitters daughter (babysitter was supposed to be watching me) - @ 4 I didn't know how to process what had actually happened - I was so confused & ashamed that I didnt tell my mom.
The second time it happened I was around 6 years old - it was my moms boyfriends son (who was 8/9 years old) & his female cousin (who was 9) - it happened in the house we were living in (my mom worked nights & his dad was the only adult in the house -he was sleeping) they both came into my room and she made me watch as she performed oral sex on him - then told me it was my turn - I was afraid so I did it .... I kept both incidents to myself & NEVER told anyone for MANY MANY years - I actually told my DH about it 2 years ago for the 1st time (we have been together for 6 years) -- it felt so good to tell him, to actually tell someone and free my soul of the shame I felt for so many years!
- I'm 27 now & still have never told my mother & never plan on it. I couldn't imagine putting that kind of hurt on her heart.
* I just wanted to update this post with a ((((((HUG)))))) for all the CM members (& anyone else) who has been through any type of sexual abuse