my son went to his dads for fathers day and the only thing i asked him to do was get him to daycare by 8 am monday cause my daughter had an appt (shes 5 months)
well at about 9:15 this morning i text the girl who runs the daycare (ive known her for a while and went to school together, her and her sister run a daycare out of their home) well she says that my son wasnt there yet! the one thing i ask him to do and he cant even get that right! this guy has no job, is waay behind in child support cause he cant keep a job, and he couldnt even make it past basic training for the military...hes not the sharpest knife in the drawer if ya know what i mean!
well i call him about 7 times trying to figure out why hes not at daycare and he finally answers and he says he just woke up....its 9:45!! what did u do drug him??? he said they stayed up til a little after 11pm!!! omg the kid is 3 years old! ive told him specifically his bedtime is 8-8:30pm! not past 11!
i have full custody cause when he went into basic he had to give up custody cause hes a single parent well even tho hes not in the military anymore that still stands. its 100% up to me whether or not he gets to see him or not. and i have no problem with him seeing him i actually encourage it since he doesnt have a job and nothing else to do! but i only asked him to do one thing and that was to get him to daycare on time since hes not paying for it! and he not only couldnt do that but for some reason he also thinks that its ok to keep a 3 year old up past 11!
edit ** its not just the fact that he stayed up late but the fact that i told him to have him somewhere by 8 am and he didnt set an alarm and he stayed up very late which made him late for daycare, that i pay for...
You can't keep a 3 year old up. They will sleep.
Give him a break. It's his kid too and if they had a good time then it's great!
What does it matter if he wasn't at daycare? He was with his dad.
Quoting DaniDoll77:
Don't let him keep him over night. Problem solved.
My daughter is 19 months and she goes down from 7-7:30 pm. Anything later than that and she will have a massive grumpy break down. Little ones need routine. It could have been the over night stay that threw things off and then of course, without a parent willing to keep that schedule, it drug out until the kid was exhausted.
There are times when I'm out and DH doesnt lay down our 2yo DS for his nap on time it may throw off that day but it's nothing to get too mad about.
yes the daycare charges if hes not there, and his dad does not pay for it! hes been "untrustworthy" since i got pregnant lol i let him see his dad cause i know he needs his father in his life but anytime i ask him to do anything he cant do it! like hes incapable of following simple directions...he said they were up til 11 with his friends riding fourwheelers....that just seems immature to me, he shouldve told his friends thats his son was only 3 and needed to go to bed!
Quoting drgnflymum:
I understand routine. But every now and then my kiddos get to stay up late especially if something special is going on. It was Father's day so he should get a little give-way. As for day care will they still charge you if he's not there? If dads not working at the moment he could watch him and they get more dad and son time. That is unless you find him untrustworthy.
There are times when I'm out and DH doesnt lay down our 2yo DS for his nap on time it may throw off that day but it's nothing to get too mad about.
he was going into infantry and they told him he couldnt have custody cause of the risks or something....idk i didnt understand it either but he rarely ever sees his son and im studying to get my license in massage therapy so i put both kids back in daycare, ds was in when i was in school before dd was born. his dad is immature, i was 16 and he was 17 when ds was born. he only gets ds when its convinent for him...
Quoting Hilary799:
Dh didn't have to give up custody when he joined...bm has had full primary physical but they had and still have joint legal custody. So that's weird to me. And its not hard to get booted out of basic either. Some people just can't do it. Why is your ds in daycare if he's not working and can keep him? I guess I don't understand. The bedtime I do understand.
Do you ever get hit on even looking a mess?
Why inflict this silly cosmetic pain on a baby!?!
- sadiebug1228
on Jun. 18, 2012 at 1:14 PM