Evil SM confession. No i dont want to take care of your kids all summer... update

[QueenBof6]

 My SO has filed a CS modification, while they were having papers drawn up, BM wanted to change the custody arrangements around. We are a 50/50 split. She wants week on/week off during the summer. My SO agreed to it with me on the fence about it.

 

My confession. I dont want them here week on/week off. Its a week on for me as Im home and the child care falls to me. Id rather stick to the original schedule, which would give me breaks in between instead of having them here solid week. Its stated in the new paperwork that its a trial basis, and that if either party has a problem maintaining said schedule, we would revert back to old schedule. I think I will be bowing out after a couple of tries.

 

I have my own kids to take care of, a part time night job and a 4 month old baby that I watch during the week. I dont want to be expected to cater to my SKs all week long all day long, and chauffer them here there and everywhere with two babies in tow. In no way do I dislike them at all.

 

Thats my evil stepmom confession.

 

UPDATE;

So after this whole mess and expecting SM to just do, BM wants to change the schedule again. Even going as far as texting me and begging me to talk to my SO about rearranging things. HAHAHAHAHAHA. No fucking way.

 

 

[MrsRinehart2010]

just treat them like your own children or children you would watch, dont cater to them by any means if they are going to be there for a full week then they need to get used to keeping them selfs busy and not expecting you keep them busy every minute of that week :O) GL

[QueenBof6]

 I share 50/50 of one of my children, he is gone when they are gone. I also have a sitter for my litle one the one day a week I dont have the other baby so I have a day to run errands, shop, lunch, pedi, whatever. Now I will have them when I dont have my own

 

I wont be catering to them. The problem with that is that when they are told no they cry like little spoiled brats. I told their dad to talk wioth them before this goes inot affect and let them klnow that they are not the only kids here, and I acnt drop everything on thier whim. Hopefully that works.

Quoting MrsRinehart2010:

just treat them like your own children or children you would watch, dont cater to them by any means if they are going to be there for a full week then they need to get used to keeping them selfs busy and not expecting you keep them busy every minute of that week :O) GL

 

[MrsRinehart2010]

I would def have your hubby talk to them , and if they then still cry an act like that then you an your husband needs to decide twaht a sutable punishment is for them! hopefully very thing works out.

Quoting QueenBof6:

 I share 50/50 of one of my children, he is gone when they are gone. I also have a sitter for my litle one the one day a week I dont have the other baby so I have a day to run errands, shop, lunch, pedi, whatever. Now I will have them when I dont have my own

 

I wont be catering to them. The problem with that is that when they are told no they cry like little spoiled brats. I told their dad to talk wioth them before this goes inot affect and let them klnow that they are not the only kids here, and I acnt drop everything on thier whim. Hopefully that works.

Quoting MrsRinehart2010:

just treat them like your own children or children you would watch, dont cater to them by any means if they are going to be there for a full week then they need to get used to keeping them selfs busy and not expecting you keep them busy every minute of that week :O) GL

 

[QueenBof6]

 Bueller,

Bueller,

Bueller

[QueenBof6]

 I hope so too. I would hate to tell him they cant be here a whole week he loves having them here, and they love being here. But I really really really need my sanity.

Quoting MrsRinehart2010:

I would def have your hubby talk to them , and if they then still cry an act like that then you an your husband needs to decide twaht a sutable punishment is for them! hopefully very thing works out.

Quoting QueenBof6:

 I share 50/50 of one of my children, he is gone when they are gone. I also have a sitter for my litle one the one day a week I dont have the other baby so I have a day to run errands, shop, lunch, pedi, whatever. Now I will have them when I dont have my own

 

I wont be catering to them. The problem with that is that when they are told no they cry like little spoiled brats. I told their dad to talk wioth them before this goes inot affect and let them klnow that they are not the only kids here, and I acnt drop everything on thier whim. Hopefully that works.

Quoting MrsRinehart2010:

just treat them like your own children or children you would watch, dont cater to them by any means if they are going to be there for a full week then they need to get used to keeping them selfs busy and not expecting you keep them busy every minute of that week :O) GL

 

 

 

[skittlebeans88]

I don't blame you for feeling the way you do.

[MrsRinehart2010]

lol right I mean its always different honestly when its your own kids because thypically they are always with you know your rules and know your mom so they know they have to to listen. but ofcourse when you marry som eone who does have kids form a previouse relationship ofcourse the kids most the time try their best to get over an get the best of you even if they are good kids , kids test limits lol. GL hopefully every thing can work out!

Quoting QueenBof6:

 I hope so too. I would hate to tell him they cant be here a whole week he loves having them here, and they love being here. But I really really really need my sanity.

Quoting MrsRinehart2010:

I would def have your hubby talk to them , and if they then still cry an act like that then you an your husband needs to decide twaht a sutable punishment is for them! hopefully very thing works out.

Quoting QueenBof6:

 I share 50/50 of one of my children, he is gone when they are gone. I also have a sitter for my litle one the one day a week I dont have the other baby so I have a day to run errands, shop, lunch, pedi, whatever. Now I will have them when I dont have my own

 

I wont be catering to them. The problem with that is that when they are told no they cry like little spoiled brats. I told their dad to talk wioth them before this goes inot affect and let them klnow that they are not the only kids here, and I acnt drop everything on thier whim. Hopefully that works.

Quoting MrsRinehart2010:

just treat them like your own children or children you would watch, dont cater to them by any means if they are going to be there for a full week then they need to get used to keeping them selfs busy and not expecting you keep them busy every minute of that week :O) GL

 

 

 

[QueenBof6]

 lol I thought I was going to get a lot of "you should want them there, you knew what you were getting into" kind of replies. I see that so often in here when someone complains about their step kids

Quoting skittlebeans88:

I don't blame you for feeling the way you do.

 

[Pink.Frosting]

Hmm, never been in your position but I imagine that I would feel the same way.

[AmyJeremyx11]

Oh well, them's the breaks. I have my 3 oldest stepkids all summer, even when mine go to their dad's. I'll also have the 3 youngest for some time next month. At this point, I'm not sure when my kids' dad is getting them, so I have 8 kids all day. If he doesn't get them until August, I'll have 11. I feel your pain, i'd LOVE a break and I don't really want to do it all summer, either. At the same time, df needs to see his kids and I knew how likely it would be that this is what i'd be doing when I got with him, so I don't really mind so much.