I'm taking HER kids and she can't stop me -- EDIT in original
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I have a husband with two kids from a marriage before ours, we have one child together.
this summer he's going to be working overseas quite a bit, and will hardly be here, and so I am going to be taking the stepkids. The mother doesn't work, she's remarried, but we're not going to say anything about my husband not being home. I will be taking the kids for all of his times, which is every weekend Friday to Monday AM, and two solid weeks in the summer. At this point, he might not be around at all this summer, we have no idea when he can even be back, so I'm just going to take all the time so the mother doesn't have them and she won't be the wiser!
We're going to do so many cool and fun things, i have always wanted more kids, and this is the best way to do it! She can suffer the nine months per kid, the diapers, the puke, the sleepless nights, and i will get to do the fun stuff, even without my husband around. I don't think she should even be their mother, I'm much better, smarter, way more fun, we have more money, I don't have to work, and I think they'll like being with me more because of all the activities I'm planning on taking them to. First thing this weekend coming up is mani's and hair appointments and a 'spa day' followed by a shopping spree at Justice! I'm really into bonding with the girls over silly frivolous stuff that's just totally fun, and there's no way they can do with their mother!
One of my friends said I'm being sneaky by not telling the mother that the father won't even be in the country and I will have them all to myself, but hey -- they're my kids too! she can go to hell !!
Posting annon because she might be on CafeMom! YIKES! I don't want her to know about my plans!
EDIT to this: I am not taking more time, I'm taking his legal times. The mother won't have them any less than she does now. They will skype with him every day and call, he will talk to them, just not be there in person. what's the big deal?
You're a little hand that rocks the cradle-ish.
I don't think there is anything wrong with you having your husband's times with his kids unless their mother has an issue with it or it is stated in th CO that he is to be present. Do you think that these girls will not tell her that their father is nowhere around?? What are you going to do if something happens and one or both of the children need medical care?? You, as the step paren really have no say in the medical care....... U sure you have thought this completely through??? Maybe she wouldn't have a problem with you having the kids without your DH.... maybe she wants a break.....
Try and see this from the other side of the coin. Would you want someone who felt they were better than you to do the very same thing your planning to do with the step kids? Think about it.
Also, maybe the mother has problems, maybe she's not your ideal of a mother, maybe she's made a few mistakes even. But we can Never know what it truly in anothers heart. Even if your sure you do you can't. These are her children to and I'm sure she loves them. Just because she doesn't have the money or resources you do Does Not mean she doesn't care.
Also, these are her children too and not just dh's. She has every right to know what your doing. If you had approched it right and just told her you loved the kids and wanted to spend time with them, she may have let you. Sneaking off is Not the right way to handle it. You will be caught, even if the kids don't tell. Things like this get out.
I admit, I don' t know the whole story here, so forgive me if I'm wrong. However, I truly don't think sneaking is the right way to do this.
If she is really savvy she will file abandonement charges or an increase in CS due to an increase in time.
FYI- judges don't like this type of nonsense and are not supportive of over stepping steps...
are you ok with another woman calling your husband "hun" or "babe"