i read through a bit of that -- no way did i read all of it, wow -- and i have a question -- if the BF isn't around would you let an SM take your kid during a normal visitation period?
not in the context of the other post, but just if you have an SM, would you let the SM take the kids if you knew BF wouldn't be there? hypothetically, as a mother, would you let a hypothetical SM take your kids just so they can maintain the routine? Would there be a limit to that, like maybe one day but no longer? a few hours? not at all?
I don't really have that issue, becuase BM in my case would rather not trouble herself by having her kids and would rather someone else take them -- whether it was me or the mailman, she really wouldn't care. she only wants them when it's about control or power-tripping.