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I'm grieving...and I'd like to hit the next person who says:

Anonymous
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1. At least she's not suffering anymore.
2. God must've needed her more.
3. I know exactly how you feel.
4. How are you? (and not mean it)
5. At least your kids are young enough to not remember.
6. It could be worse.
7. You have to be strong for your kids.
8. She wouldn't have wanted you to be this upset.
9. Everything happens for a reason.
10. God doesn't give us more than we can handle.
11. Just be glad you had her this long.
12. It will be ok.
13. When asking why, being told to blame Adam and Eve and original sin.
14. Time heals all wounds.
15. Let me know if you need anything.

I'm not meaning to be a bitch by making this list. Some of these are obviously offensive, but some of them we have all said. I am guilty of saying many of them to other people without knowing how terrible they are to hear. I'll never say any of these again to a grieving person.

Does anyone else agree that those things are more hurtful than helpful? Am I leaving any out?
Posted by Anonymous on Jun. 20, 2012 at 9:27 PM
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activitymode
by Platinum Member on Jun. 20, 2012 at 9:28 PM
:(
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jun. 20, 2012 at 9:29 PM
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I disagree...when someone dies there really isn't much that anyone can say or do. No one knows what to say that can help out. When my dad died 7 years ago I heard a bunch of those lines plenty of times but I didn't get pissed about it...I was glad I had people that cared.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jun. 20, 2012 at 9:29 PM
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It's life get over it. You forgot that one.
Buttercup0829
by on Jun. 20, 2012 at 9:29 PM
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Yes. While people say them with the intention of being helpful, sometimes those are things you just don't want to hear. Sometimes you just need someone who will shut up and let you talk it out, shut up and let you cry on their shoulder, or just completely go away because you need time to yourself.
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Bethsunshine
by Emerald Member on Jun. 20, 2012 at 9:29 PM
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I didn't realize that offering to help someone in their time of mourning was offensive.
Elyce225
by Ruby Member on Jun. 20, 2012 at 9:29 PM
I get and I never say those things to anyone who lost a child. Well, I do say I'm so sorry but I mean it.
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Suz_and_Ash
by Bronze Member on Jun. 20, 2012 at 9:30 PM
I'm sorry. :(
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jun. 20, 2012 at 9:30 PM
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People really want to let you know they care, but words just don't exsist that can come near pain after a loss.
UnIdentiFiedOne
by on Jun. 20, 2012 at 9:30 PM
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While I get it, you need to try and remember they really are just trying to be supportive and help you.

I'm sorry, btw.
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singlemom1208
by on Jun. 20, 2012 at 9:31 PM
When my dad died my friend said "at least you don't have to take care of him anymore"
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