My SO doesn't want to spend time as a couple

[Anonymous]

I love my SO but he's really trying... We're together a lot, with our son, but I want to spend time together just us. Even if it's just snuggling for a movie when our son is asleep. Just talking, cuddling, whatever. We don't go out  on dates, we never have. I don't like movie theatres and we can't afford to go for dinner or anything. He isn't romantic. He goes out almost every evening to a friend's house. I totally trust him to go, that's not the issue. I just wish he'd hang out with me instead. I've told him time and again, but he just says "It's too late to watch anything" or "I have nothing to talk about". He gets crabby if I push it. If I ask him to stay in and not go out, he gets annoyed and talks about how it's only a couple hours and how he hates staying in at night. When we have sex he gets up right away and goes outside for a smoke. He never compliments me. I love him, but I feel like there's no romance left and I miss it. If I talk to him about it he just says "I'm not a romantic guy". Well he used to be! I remember being 15 and he came to my window at like 3 am just to hug me and give me a rose. Why won't he spend time with me or be romantic anymore?

[ElleBee75]

You remember being 15...? How old are you now? Teenage love and adult love are two different things.

[Anonymous]

Dump his ass.

[anotherhalf]

Truth? Sounds like he's bored.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's gay.

[TasteOfCollapse]

Sounds like he just isnt budging. I'd say cut it off now. If he truly does care he would come crawling.back to ya but if he doesn't and moves on quickly then there you have it...it would.have been obvious you cared more about him then he did for you.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Lol, he's not gay. I'm totally fine with bisexuality, polysexuality, whatever, He's attracted to everything BUT guys.

Quoting Anonymous:

Maybe he's gay.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

We're in our 20s. You don't remember being fifteen?

Quoting ElleBee75:

You remember being 15...? How old are you now? Teenage love and adult love are two different things.

[CrickettyBoo]

Idk.

[ElleBee75]

I do remember being 15 and I remember how I felt about the guy I was with but I'm older now and I do not expect to have the same type of relationship now that im an adult as I did at 15. The feelings were incredibly intense but the relationship was limiting. As an adult with a kid it has to be different.

Quoting Anonymous:

We're in our 20s. You don't remember being fifteen?

Quoting ElleBee75:

You remember being 15...? How old are you now? Teenage love and adult love are two different things.

[Miss-B]

It seems he isn't trying at all. It takes two to make it work. I wouldn't want to be with a man like that, but you know what's best for you. You can keep trying or let it go.