I am due to have my baby any day. I am with the father of my baby but we are not married. I am 19, he is 20, part of me wanted to get married but the other knew that it would be better to wait so that we can get married because we want to, not because I got pregnant. This is all great but the other day, I brought up child support. He looked at me like I was crazy and said, "we are together, I shouldn't have to pay child support". I don't get that, child support isn't punishment for not being with the mother of your child, it's money to help support your child and I told him that. He said "come to me when you need something for the baby, I will happily give you at least half for it. I don't want to do that because I don't want to have to go to him every time I need something for the baby. If we were married, we would share a bank account and I would have access to both of our money, if we weren't together I would get court ordered child support, so why because we are together but not married do I have to go to him for every dime? I am not asking for a lot, just what I would be entitled to if we went and had a judge order it (the form is online and so we just plug in how much he makes and that's it)which is $475. I still live with my mom, I will be renting from her to save money and to help her out since she is getting a divorce so it's not like we are living together and both paying bills.
Many of you mentioned that if my child is on government insurance, I will HAVE to be getting child support from my SO anyway. I called about it and since I am on pregnancy medicaid, the baby will have medicaid for the first 3 months. After that, the baby will have to get medicaid and for that I will have to file with child support enforcement, SO will have to pay them directly and they will pay me. I told SO about this and he thinks I should just give him the money back, that doesn't make sense to me, it would be one thing if the child support greatly exceeded half the costs for the child but it doesn't.