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My dh holds his phone in a way that i can't see it.
Just a bit ago his phone went off, he didn't answer. I asked him why. He said 'i dont know who it is.' So i said, 'well let me see, maybe i know.'
He wouldn't. He stuff it in his pocket and refused to show me. So i said, 'what are you hiding? Why can't i touch your phone?'
He said i make him 'nervous..'
I asked him why be nervous? If you have nothing to hide, you would gladly give me your phone... its not like i take his phone and look through it.. that thing is attached to his hip anyways.
So we got in a littke fight. Just me asking him why, him saying i make him nervous...
So after about 10 minutes i got up and said, 'you know i dont need your phone to look through it. I can see everything in-going and out-going right on the computer. If i had your phone i could see much more like actually see every click you made since you got the phone.'
He looked at me with a worried look, i smiled.
I then said, 'i won't do that though. Just from your reaction and words when i ask to see your phone, i can tell your hiding something. I dont need to look.'
We havent talked for the past hour...
Hes now on the computer in our room and doing something on his phone.
EDIT/UPDATE: some are wondering why i am so calm. We have nit had sex in 3 months. I have not be 'allowed' to touch his phone for 5 months.
I do not like fighting infront of dd (nearly 3 years old). So i will wait until she goes to bed. Ofcourse i am angry/upset/hurt.
I am not jealous. If he is cheating on me, then i would like to know. If he is cheating i would leave. I do not put up with that. Even if its something like just flirting. No. I am his wife- not someone he comes home to and 'hangs out' with. Im not a room mate. I think cheating is pointless and i told him so since we started dating. If he doesnt want me- then tell me- and i will leave. Yes i love him but i am not someone who 'works through cheating'.
Update2(11:24 pm): so dd is ginally asleep. We will start talking shortly. If it isnt long i will update within the hour, but if we fight/talk for more then an hour- i will update in the AM.
UPDATE 3(2:56pm) I'm sorry i didnt update this AM, thanks to those who are concerned and bumped my post. Last night me and dh and a 'heart to heart' conversation and he admitted he was watching porn and talking to a couple people about me. Such as our fights, sex life ect... i asked him why he just didnt come talk to me. He said he didnt know what to say really. I dont know for sure if he is telling the truth but he did admit he was talking to a couple female coworkers and thought i would be mad at that.
For those saying i shouldnt ask for his phone or look through it ect,,, he asks for mine. I allow him to. I have nothing to hide, he can see whatever he wants to since i dont delete anything off of it. Last month a number phoned my cell phone and i didnt pick up. He asked why and i told him i didnt know who it was so they can leave a voicemail. He ended up calling that number when he went to work and called me asked who 'Jeff' was. I told him i had no idea... which i dont. I still dont know. He got angry at me and i told him my phone is there if he wants to look all through it. He just continued to be angry at me.
So thats it for now.. we are suppose to talk more after he gets home at 5 pm,.