Birth Rape - Real or Not? **Edit**

[kcangel63]

I see this a lot. That just because the hospital staff didn't have sex with the woman, that what they did was not sexual assult.

What would you call it if a woman was held down in her home or back alley, and while kicking and screaming "NO" the person forced their hands inside her vagina?

Now, why is this not ok, but the same thing (and worse) is fine if done in the hospital setting? Why is that acceptable?

**Edit**

Here is a link to some birth stories from women who feel they have been through "birth rape".

https://birthrape.wordpress.com/about/

[JakesMom712]

I agree. But why not call it something else? The doctors are not being sexual sadist, just assholes

Quoting mylovey:

When I first heard about this, I couldn't believe that a birth experience could compare to rape/sexual assault. Then I read some women's stories in regards to these issues. I was sickened by their stories. Some of these women are held down, while a medical professional forces their hands/instruments inside of their vagina's, without their permission. That is sexual assault to me. Just because you are a medical professional does not mean you can force anything upon a woman without her consent.  

[svolkov]

I think it depends on the facility. Mine was awesome! And whomever was with mom should take care of her. I guarantee if I was screaming no my dh would get the person away

Quoting anetrnlov:

I don't know what to call it but I do believe that birthing in hospitals (in general) has become a cold and calous process, that unnessesary procedures/checks do occur and it can be very traumatic for the mother.  What is faster, easier, etc for the doctor and the staff takes priority over the well being of mother and child.

The whole process has become mechanized and far from what it is suppose to be.

[Anonymous]

I think it is demeaning to rape victims to call it rape.

[Anonymous]

I feel like my birthing experience was robbed from me. I did NOT want a c-section, and told me doctor this, the nurses, yet they still did it. I was basically pushed into a corner and told that I needed a c-section (when I didn't). I am actually traumatized by it, because I don't want it happening like that again, and I barely have sex with my husband anymore, even though I want more children, I just can't do it...Its very sad.

[svolkov]

Agree pehaps it should be called vaginal assault or something because there is nothing sexual about it besides the fact that its occuring at the vagina

Quoting JakesMom712:

I agree. But why not call it something else? The doctors are not being sexual sadist, just assholes

Quoting mylovey:

When I first heard about this, I couldn't believe that a birth experience could compare to rape/sexual assault. Then I read some women's stories in regards to these issues. I was sickened by their stories. Some of these women are held down, while a medical professional forces their hands/instruments inside of their vagina's, without their permission. That is sexual assault to me. Just because you are a medical professional does not mean you can force anything upon a woman without her consent.  

[Aslen]

Birth Rape is very real and very traumatic.

[militarywife09]

I agree. But not everyone feels that way. There are people who only want the bare essentials done when delivering, and in that case it could be considered rape.

Quoting babydsmommy18:

LOL, This is such an old argument.. IMO the doctor can do whatever he/she feels they need to do to make sure my child is ok.

[all4Him999]

If you're birthing a baby out of your vagina, then, you need vaginal exams. Your doctor went to school and trained for decades to be able to deliver your baby safely and you think you know better than a medical doctor what is necessary???

Quoting kcangel63:

I'm not just talking about guiding a baby out, but unnecessary vaginal exams.

Quoting all4Him999:

Because when you are in a hospital giving birth, your doctor is responsible for your life and the life of your being-born child. Babies come out of your vagina and they sometimes get stuck and need help to get out quickly. A medical doctor's hands delivering your baby, that you consented to, is not rape. It may be a TRAUMA birth, but not rape.

[LucyMom08]

I think if you do not want medical procedures done, don't give birth in a hospital.

[themissheather]

I'm sure it's not for a sexual reason. Repeated cervical checks are unnecessary because they run the risk of introducing bacteria. The reason they are done is because of policy, not medical need. The trauma experienced by some women comes from the feeling of losing the autonomy. I disagree that people are too sensitive. I feel women are too willing to allow substandard care.

Quoting Anonymous:

I was checked every couple hrs. I've never hears of excessive checking and if they are checking a lot, its for a reason..I really doubt they are doing it for any weird sexual satisfaction..people are just too sensitive. If you don't want the hospital experience, don't birth in one.

Quoting themissheather:

Repeated checks are unnecessary. Women birthing in hospitals can have traumatic experiences that leave them with emotions similar to those experienced by rape victims. Perhaps, you don't agree with some people on this subject, but it's not one to be laughed about.

Quoting Anonymous:

Unnecessary..like when they check your cervix? You're nuts.



Like they have any wish to touch your vagina. It's all they do all day. I bet its he last thing they want to do..



If you don't want them to touch you, have a home birth where you're safe from all that raping lol

Quoting kcangel63:

I'm not just talking about guiding a baby out, but unnecessary vaginal exams.

Quoting all4Him999:

Because when you are in a hospital giving birth, your doctor is responsible for your life and the life of your being-born child. Babies come out of your vagina and they sometimes get stuck and need help to get out quickly. A medical doctor's hands delivering your baby, that you consented to, is not rape. It may be a TRAUMA birth, but not rape.