WE ARE NOT SUPER HEROES. WE ARE HUMAN BEINGS.
I see a lot of bullying on this site, something that wasnt that big here a year ago when i originally joined CM. I see mothers judging others to an extreme. I dont mean the ones who purposely post bad things they are 'supposedly' doing to start something dramatic in chat, but actual mothers who have questions and are working or staying at home, who need someone to talk to. It is as though people are joining this site specifically to vent some of their anger on others to make themselves feel better.
And i feel this is wrong.
The fact is that there is no perfect way to mother. You just do it. And if it is your first child it can be a trial and error process. There are basic things that a parent doesnt do, such as drugs, excessive drinking, leaving your child alone in a hot car... Things that common sense should be taking care of. But there are questions that new mothers have that are being targeted by these bridge troll, ultra conservative women, and it is just sad and disheartening. Why do we feel we have to be super heroes? We are not. And that is the truth. We are human beings who feel emotion, who need to eat and sleep, who try to raise our children the best that we can. And that is all that we can do.
I dont understand this competive super mom craze. I EBF'd as long as i could because there were health benefits. And when i had to switch my daughter to formula that was fine too. I made baby food by hand because it was more cost effective. Not because i was showing off to other moms.Why are people going crazy to prove to people, most of which they dont even know, that they are perfect? I am not perfect, but i love my daughter and do my best and that is what counts. That should be the only thing that truly counts. When i see someone attacked on here, because they feed their five year old a happy meal on a road trip instead of spending hours ahead of time preparing and storing stuff made from scratch, it really irriates me. Sometimes fast food is okay. Jump off the insanity wagon and realize that it wont make your child 300 lbs to get them some chicken nuggets and a toy.
I refuse to jump on the vegan bandwagon, though the people who dedicate themselves to that lifestyle should be praised for their hard work and moral standing. But it isnt a lifestyle for me and my family. Does that mean i should be isolated from a group of women and then verbally torn apart? I dont think so.
The thing is, and i feel this is true whether anyone wants to own up to it or not, but these women who jump on their republican high horse and shame others on a daily basis, are simply bored with their lives. Bored with being SAHM's, who wont have sex outside of the bedroom, are embarrassed to give their husband oral sex, and like to cry rape simply because it will give them attention. Honestly ladies, as a victim myself, you dont see me EVER put it in post after post, as though it is an excuse or a reason to draw attention. No one knows what you have been through until you tell someone, and when you do you should receive support. But crying out for attention that way, is not the the way to go. I may burn in hell for saying that. But it is really all that i read, and i think it is time that everyone takes a step back, realizes that they sound like catty teenagers, and work towards making this informative site more positive and supportive. This is not cheerleader practice. Some of you are in your 30's and higher. Grow out of it already.
Be a teacher and a friend.
No one is perfect, no matter how many PTA meetings you attend. So, loosen up, stop spreading venom with every post, and be helpful and friendly. Ultimately, more people will not only like you, but look up to you, which should be far more satisfying than calling them names and telling them they are horrible people for having children.
IDK I'm prett fucking awesome, even my farts smell like chanel...
I stopped reading at "something that wasn't that big here a year ago...".
Yes, it was. Its always been here.
So - because you clearly see what you want to see.....I was uninterested in anything else you had to say.
Oh look, another bridge troll. If you cant even bother to finish the post, then you are obviously not worth my time to listen to. Have a nice day.
Quoting ElitestJen:I stopped reading at "something that wasn't that big here a year ago...".
Yes, it was. Its always been here.
So - because you clearly see what you want to see.....I was uninterested in anything else you had to say.
but what if you do believe there is a perfect way to mother and that the line "no one is perfect" is just a cop out? i for one do believe in perfection and believe that people should do whatever they have to to obtain it. now i do believe that what one may veiw as perfection may be subjective but yeah i think the line "noone is perfect", is just an excuse to not try harder.... when I hear it I think... LAZY!
Quoting TimeEnough4Love:Oh look, another bridge troll. If you cant even bother to finish the post, then you are obviously not worth my time to listen to. Have a nice day.
Quoting ElitestJen:I stopped reading at "something that wasn't that big here a year ago...".
Yes, it was. Its always been here.
So - because you clearly see what you want to see.....I was uninterested in anything else you had to say.
Oh...you're typing again? I figured your fingers were tired.
Ive been a member since 2008. Its always been this way. Even this post is condescending to women who live a lifestyle different then your self. I do give you credit for trying. Apparently only the SHM's and republican women are the ones who judge the harshest. Im both and not bored in the slightest.
And while Im on my soap box I will say that if discussons like these didnt exist how would people get ideas that might actually work to improve their lives?
You take what you can from this site and leave the rest. Its worked for me since I discovered it.
You have a good point. But there is a difference between laziness and having a different parenting style. And choosing a different parenting style, whether you agree with it or not, doesnt warrant people attacking you on what should be an informative and supportive site. Debating is one thing, but just trolling around looking for victims is an entirely different thing. Offering advice is far better, in my opinion, than arguing over something stupid. You cant make that person parent better. But you can offer information that might help them do something they didnt know they could do or do differently.
Quoting Anonymous:but what if you do believe there is a perfect way to mother and that the line "no one is perfect" is just a cop out? i for one do believe in perfection and believe that people should do whatever they have to to obtain it. now i do believe that what one may veiw as perfection may be subjective but yeah i think the line "noone is perfect", is just an excuse to not try harder.... when I hear it I think... LAZY!
I think my husband's a sociopath
- TimeEnough4Love
on Jun. 25, 2012 at 9:38 AM