I can't stand my SIL...
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So, here is the story.
My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years. He has a younger brother. His younger brother is married to a girl who is...(how should I say it...) white trash. She is not a very nice person, she has always done things to copy me and has talked bad about my husband. (Saying things like he is different with me than how he used to be and how he is not the real him with me, blah blah) I have told my husband about it and he just laughs saying she never knew him very well, what is she talking about??! We hardly see her, only for family functions. So, that is a tiny bit of background...
We moved 6 months ago out of our house (it sold) and we found a condo to rent in the meantime while we are waiting to hear back on a short sale home we put an offer on. When we were moving our stuff, my husband told me we should have his brother and SIL sell our baby items at their garage sale that they have every weekend (yes, every single weekend at their house) that they wouldn't mind and they would give us the money. I honestly did not want to do that, because we were planning on having another baby...but because of the stress of moving out of our house so soon, and not much room to store our stuff, I finally agreed. I said they can have all the money for the toys they sell, the baby clothes I would like 50/50, and the big baby items I would like all the money for. (In case we had another baby, we could then buy baby items again with that money) I wrote it down on a piece of paper for Jeff's brother when we gave them the baby items.
Shortly after the move, we found out we were pregnant! lol So, I called my SIL about getting all the baby items back and she said the baby clothes are all gone. (6 big bags full) and most of the baby items were gone. I said "oh ok...", and was a bit sad, but I understood and asked for the money next time I saw her. I saw her about 5 times and still no mention of money or giving us the money. I HATE asking for money (and we really need money right now) and so I asked again and felt quite uncomfortable doing so. She said ok, we saw her again another 3-4 times since and nothing. I don't know what to do. I don't want to ask again...I am just getting really stressed out about it. I am almost 6 months pregnant now and feeling pretty emotional...I don't know if I am looking for advice or just to vent...
I also talked to my husband's parents about it, and they said that my BIL and SIL are always given stuff for their garage sales and they are used to making money off of everyone else's items and they never give them money for the items. I am livid! If I knew that, I would never had given them our stuff! ): It is upsetting because his parents pretty much told me that I should expect that from them (because they are trashy people) I am not going to just accept that is "how they are" and move on. I feel cheated...
Yeah, I did want to vent..but I think I also want others to say how messed up the situation is. LOL
I am just annoyed. My husband and his brother do not get along very well...so not sure if that is the best route. But I can ask him...
Quoting marinenonstop:
Sounded like you needed to vent..but have your husband ask his brother about it.
My policy with loaning money (or having people owe me money) is that I give it knowing it is a gift. If the person pays me, it's a bonus, but I don't loan it if I can't walk away considering it a gift. Unfortunately, I think you're gonna have to write this one off. She obviously doesn't care if she pays you. If you aren't willing to give them what they want with nothing due, then don't give it in the future. Sucks. But that's how peope are sometimes.
well, it is a shame that you will have to make up for the loss by not getting them anything for christmas or birthdays for the next few years. Sigh* times are tough and you just cant afford it...
It definitely sucks ): I have known them for about 4 years but we do not hang out other than family functions. We do not talk much at all either. She and I do not have much in common. She and her husband built a liquor bar in their kids play room, and are just trashy people to say the least. I just did not know they would screw us over like this. I now know, I guess. ): It is just strange because I come from a big family and my family members do not do that stuff to one another. When I owe someone money I HAVE to get the money back to them or it will drive me insane. They are just different people from what I have known..and it sucks.
Quoting PurpleGlitter84:
That sucks you should not have given the stuff to her. You didn't know them well enough? Did you get everything else back?
I wish I could do that!! lol But Christmas I have to get them gifts, or I would feel terrible. Her birthday is today actually! lol I did write her on fb and said happy birthday, but that is all she is getting from me. ):
Quoting kkps725:well, it is a shame that you will have to make up for the loss by not getting them anything for christmas or birthdays for the next few years. Sigh* times are tough and you just cant afford it...
I think my husband's a sociopath