When we told my oldest that I am pregnant, we asked him if he wanted a baby brother or a baby sister. He told us that he already had a baby brother (my DH's grandson that we are raising) so he wanted a baby sister. Some how he mistook us asking, as us telling him he gets to choose. We have tried telling him that although we can HOPE that the baby is a little boy or a little girl, we don't really get to decide. He insists that he is getting a baby sister.
One time we were talking about it, and I asked DS what he was going to do if he had another baby brother, and he said "No Mama it HAS to be a baby sister." But I told him that it could be a baby brother and what was he going to do then... and he scratched his chin and looked up and said "trade him for a puppy?"
I did tell him that once the baby is here we can't trade him or her and that we just have to love it and take care of it just like we take care of him and JD.
Well DS still insists that he is having a baby sister! He refuses to call the baby in my belly anything other than his baby sister.
He even got into a heated argument with my mom over the weekend (I know what was my mom thinking arguing with a 3 year old). He is very passionate about this! He has actually gotten to the point where he gets mad if you try to tell him that the baby could be a boy.
I know I have a very spoiled child who is used to getting what he wants and we should have never asked him what he wanted to begin with!
But now I am just worried that if the baby turns out to be a boy he will be heart broken!!! What can I do to make him understand????