I don't really want to kill him becuase I don't really want to go to jail. however if he would just drop dead that would be nice.
now, to get to my point. my ex and I have been separated for 2 1/2 years. ds turned 3 in march. we have a 50/50 custody split and are waiting to go back to court to return it to the 70/30 split(in my favor) that it was.
we live in a small town of about 1800 people and he has a large extended family. i have me and my so. I don't even have my parents, they are on the ex's side. long story short? my parents are backstabbers. my ex and i have a, shall we say, hostile relationship. It is not because of me, but becuase of him. I will go out of my way to let ds say hi to his "other" family whenever we see them and always talk positive etc. He on the other hand is so focused on what he calls "his time" (which basically translates to any one having ds except for me) and making me look bad.
so today I am on my way to drop ds off at the "neutral" spot (aka daycare).. well ds pukes EVERYWHERE in the car. so naturally I flip around and drive home to clean him up( we were less then 5 km from home ladies). I then proceed to clean ds up, call the ex and leave a message on his machine, email the ex the same message, and text the daycare letting them know that ds won't be there today and I am making alternate arrangements for ds's pickup.
the daycare proceeds to tell me to bring him anyways, that ex is out of town but exmil, exsil, and my mother are in charge of ds and exmil is waiting at the daycare to pick him up. this is the same lady who will be my "friend" then go run to ex and his fam and call cps on me for dropping of ds at daycare 30 min early. so I'm sorry if I don't trust her. I let her know that I cannot do that until I hear from ex because he is the custodial parent on "his weeks" and he hasn't informed that he is out of town and who will be acting in his stead.
suffice to say I have ds at home right now napping on the couch, with a mild fever. I feel confident in my actions, but I guess I am wondering what other women would do in my place.
points to note:
ex does not talk to me for any reason what so ever, I have to contact him. he will not even allow me to talk to ds on the phone
I left the ex for abuse reasons. sexual, emotional, mental, and financial
I am a sahm, both because of the birth of my youngest ds and becuase of the slander the ex and parents have spread around town.
if you have any questions just ask :)