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wrong? Or right?

Posted by Anonymous

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i work my ass off for my family and my so stays home with my dd. Well as of today i told him if he doesnt like how i run my home then he can leave. I help when i am home but given how small my 2 bedroom apt is i dont see how he cant do it without me or ever. So from now on if dd doesnt picj up after herself she no longer gets the fun stuff shes been getting to do and with so i will no longer pay his phone, buy his ammo and bend over backwards for him. If he can at least make it to where i dont have to clean EVERY SINGLE NIGHT i get off work i will continue but if not his fun shit gets cut out too. Esp after being told how shitty of a mom i am when i work so much and hard that i have hardly any time with dd. Am i wrong for feeling this way?

Posted by Anonymous on Jun. 25, 2012 at 7:27 PM

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Two_Hearts

Gold Member on Jun. 25, 2012 at 7:29 PM

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Nope , if the situation was reversed i am sure that you would be expected to do the same if you were the stay at home parent.

scarlettsam

Silver Member on Jun. 25, 2012 at 7:29 PM

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Heeeelllll to the nnnnnooo. Tell him. Put your beautiful strong foot down and tell him how it is gonna be.

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AubreeGrace17

Platinum Member on Jun. 25, 2012 at 7:29 PM

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Why doesn't he work? You are not wrong at all for feeling like this. He sounds lazy to me!

moosesmom

Homecoming Queen on Jun. 25, 2012 at 7:31 PM

No, not at all. But it sounds as if you're dealing with a lazy teenage son, than your SO. But you're definitely not wrong.

by Anonymous on Jun. 25, 2012 at 7:40 PM

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If I can play devil's advocate for a moment ... I've heard this situation time and time again, but the roles reversed with sahms having things threatened to be taken away. Then I hear some moms say that he's trying to control you.

Altho I don't blame you for feeling the way you do ... it always seems to be damned if you do damned if you don't type of situation.

by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jun. 25, 2012 at 7:41 PM

he was, then he got fired. He looked for 6 months constantly and couldnt find anything when i told him to jus stay home with dd and id work but he would have to pick up the slack at home. Dd is in charge of her room, picking up after herself and the br trash (she is 6) i do our bedroom the rest is on him with my occassional help. Ive gotten tired of coming home to trash over flowing, dishes over flowing the floors dirty as hell and ive had it. So his xbox is getting put up somewhere, his gun is too and im not paying for shit unless its bills or for me or neccessities. More money for me to save up

Quoting AubreeGrace17:

Why doesn't he work? You are not wrong at all for feeling like this. He sounds lazy to me!

danni1982

on Jun. 25, 2012 at 7:45 PM

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My DH would be pissed as hell if he had to work and clean at home too. He needs to man up and do the housework, if he wants to be a SAHD well then that comes with cooking, cleaning and taking care of the kid. Sitting on the xbox while the child does whatever is not taking care of his responsibilities.