My dd14's friend's mom calls my dd her daughter all the time, and it really annoys me. She is younger than the other moms in my dd's group of friends, so she fancies herself "the cool mom". This woman is always posting on her fb page how proud she is of "her" daughters, always insists on having the other girls in the group call her "mom" or "mommy", warning boys if they hurt "her" daughter they will have to answer to her, etc. I guess I wouldn't have such a problem with it if the woman has helped me raise my dd, but I barely even know her! She did not give birth to my kid and is not involved in raising her, I think she has no right calling herself my dd's mom...My dd only has one mom, and that's me!! Would you be annoyed too, or am I overreacting?
I am hesitant to bring it up to her, because she's the type of woman who gets really defensive and blows things out of proportion, and gets vindictive...case in point: another mom noticed she doesn't discipline her ds3, who has mild Asperger's, and talked to her about it. I was around when it happened, and she wasn't being confrontational at all, she just made suggestions. Anyway, "cool mom" flipped out, posted on her FB later on that day "how dare someone attack an autistic child!!!", then started rumors about this other mom that she was pregnant with a black man's baby, instead of her fiance's. She even posted it on a public forum!
How can I tell her to knock it off, without dealing with her craziness?