Sex After Baby? What's That??

[Cafe Amanda]

There are so many reasons why a new mom might avoid having sex after giving birth: pain, tiredness, post-partum depression, being uncomfortable with the changes in her body. There are even some medical conditions common in new moms - with symptoms that mimic plain-old new mom exhaustion - that can affect libido, too.

Here's what you need to know about getting your mojo back and your groove on - including the person you should be having more sex with (hint - it's not your partner!). Watch for it at about 5:30 into the video.

What's your libido been like since having kids?

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[cntrybumpkin]

Wow i feel really bad to hear all these women say they had increased libido my youngest is 11 almost 12 and i am talking years nite months. i still to this day have no desire but once every couple of months i must have a saint for a husband cause he has been patient through the years. i do have a history of endometriosis having a hysto at 30. i still have one vary so no hrt but it is aggravating that sex does not cross my mind for weeks or months to the point my hobby gave up trying and waits for me to make advances which i feel makes the cycle worse. anyone else have this problem and have found OTC or prescribed help please pm me and share i will take all the help i can get. i have tried testosterone shots the side effects were horrible and many OTC products none have helped.

[kaffedrikke]

It fricking hurt so bad after childbirth that mg libido was nonexistant.

[Cutenessmom]

I waited ot have sex with hubby after six months we did  one time maybe more in the  three years after having son. Hubby was  not in the mood....

[jediGert]

My lebido is fine, it's the toddler that's the problem.  No uninterrupted mommy and daddy time... lol.

[Bird16_J]

 Well my little one is almost 3 months old and I'm going in for my check up on the 19th. Once they put in my IUD then I'll see about having sex until then I really don't want to chance getting pregnant again lol My hubby must be a saint because we haven't had any sort of sex in 3 months lol Hopefully here soon we can it would be nice that's for sure! lol

[Anonymous]

Hubs and I have never had a "normal" sex life, and the beginning of our relationship was rocky. Since having our daughter, I want sex even less (she is 19 months old). I am rarely in the mood. If and when it does happen, I'm completely fine and enjoy it, but getting into that state of mind is super difficult for me. I'm actually thinking about seeking counseling over it. It's not a good situation or feeling to be weighing on the mind.

[Anonymous]

Just delivered our 5th this past March... and I'm still not back to feeling like I did before. I was bed rest for 3 weeks before they finally decided to go fetch her, then had the joy of having to stay in hospital longer due to issues going on with me. When we first got home, he had to go on the road for the first week... I could barely move and still had all the kids and new puppy to deal with. Exhausted... wasn't even the begining of how I felt! With BF, I feel like a icky mess all the time... and then more tired for being up so much with her and up all day.

Basically, we went from 2-3 times a day (some sessions, some quickies) before the morning sickness attacked me... to 2-3 times a week quickies (before the baby wakes up or the water in the shower gets too cold.

After the first kids, my sex drive went right back to normal (barely able to make it to the 6wk check up)... but I'd say this time around its jsut went into "yea right lady, time-out we are tired, forget you, good luck".... kinda works out though, cause he's on the road allot. Maybe if he was home every night, he could rev it more. ;)