There are so many reasons why a new mom might avoid having sex after giving birth: pain, tiredness, post-partum depression, being uncomfortable with the changes in her body. There are even some medical conditions common in new moms - with symptoms that mimic plain-old new mom exhaustion - that can affect libido, too.
Here's what you need to know about getting your mojo back and your groove on - including the person you should be having more sex with (hint - it's not your partner!). Watch for it at about 5:30 into the video.
What's your libido been like since having kids?
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My libido after just one child has been seriously affected, and not in a good way. And my son is about to turn 5!!!!! :-( Yikes!
My libido sky rocketed after my baby was born. I was a hornball before, and more so after. We didn't last more than a week after I was home from the hospital.
I got back up on that horse in days. DH and I are on our 3rd child in 4 years.
I had my first baby, my son, 11 weeks ago...I must say I was extremely worried about things being different after birth, my older sis said sex was better for her after giving birth..and I was like..????? I think we have been led to believe as a society that it's basically like " throwing a hot dog down a hallway " after giving birth...:p I didn't want to dissapoint my SO..and I remember thinking that when we had sex about 2 weeks before DS birth, that it would be the " last time" so to speak, that I was normal or" tight" down there. I have to say that right after birth .. I was thinking... "NEVER EVER AGAIN!" I didn't even think I would be able to wipe properly ever again, it was soooo sore and I didn't think my SO and I would ever be attracted to eachother again either, however around week 3-4 pp , I began getting randomly aroused to the point of feeling like I was going to orgasm in my pants! I think it may have to do with more blood circulating down there, due to healing? I had um "helped myself out" out a couple of times since about that time, to get rid off the feeling of impending explosion.. but never really felt relief.. finally about a wk and a half ago..say 9 wks pp..when my SO came over I hugged him and his smell drove me so insane I wanted to throw him down and ravage him! I couldn't however because my mom was in the other room with the baby, but we flirted and joked about it all day and finally , when we fell asleep watching a movie , I woke up to a surprise cuddle, and you know what they say.." spooning leads to forking!" lol...and it was MINDBLOWING! LONGEST O EVER! it felt slighty different but just as good if not better than before..he said he couldn't tell any difference either... so basically, I was afraid for nothing..the only thing that was a little odd was having the baby a foot away.. we co-sleep..( sorry son! may you never read this!) but he wasn't disturbed at all, as he sleeps like a log through the night for the time being..so to all you first time moms or moms to be.. it gets better and things will become a "new normal" although it can be insanely hectic and tiring those first couple wks to months...! and no I'm not posting this anonymously! and yes I co-sleep...deal with it... :)
I think my husband's a sociopath
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on Jun. 28, 2012 at 2:44 PM