She just shows up on my door step with out a phone call (she lives about 4 hrs away). My mom lives with me and takes care of my kids for me (Yes, I pay her for child care). Not only does she show up unannounced but with her 3 kids, her younger sister and her the younger sister's boyfriend. Don't get me wrong, I love my nieces but to show up on my door step without so much as a text or phone call it'svery aggravating.
My niece not only shows up like this but apparently she didn't bring enough diapers or formula for my great niece and her older brother. Nor did she have enough formula for the baby (she's 10 months). My niece just goes into my kitchen and pulls out the 2% mil and says "Oh that's good enough for the baby" and proceeds to pour the milk into the baby's bottle.
They weren't even here for 2 hrs when her middle child goes missing only to find him in the bathroom. Diaper off and pooped smeared all over my bathroom walls. This is how I found out that she was all out of diapers. So my mom cleaned the mess while I ran to the store to get formula and diapers for the babes.
As we were on our way there, I also found out that my other niece had loaned her older sister money for gas just so that they could drive to see us. I purchased formula and diapers for the kiddos and headed back.
When I arrived home I found that my niece's car was gone but when I got inside the house all 3 of her kids were running around. My mom asked me if she (my oldest niece) had gone with me to the store and I told her no, just my kids & my other niece & the boyfriend. Come to find out, that while my mom was cleaning the bathroom she just up and left without telling anyone or asking my mom if it was ok to leave the 3 kids with her. WTF?!
So midnight rolls around and my niece comes strolling in. She was a lil bit tipsy and showing off the stuff that she just purchased. I was down right pissed off. She didn't have the money to buy formula or diapers but has the cash to go and spend on stupid stuff for her dogs (she left them at home, thank god!) and to go to a bar?
I really try not to parent other people's children but this is when I lost it. "Of course you can't spend money on your dam dogs when your babies don't have formula or diapers! You didn't even have the gas money to get here how the hell do you expect to get home?" This went on for about 30 minutes. She was crying that she never gets to do anything fun anymore. "Well, time to put on your big girl panties and be the mom your kids deserve. You have 3 kids now ... it's all about taking care of their needs now. Cuz if you don't do it ... who will?" Then I hear blah blah blah, I'm tired of always being broke. "Well, if you got a job waiting tables you'd get a pay check and tips."
She then told me that once she gets back over the state line that she could get formula for the baby but that if she were to get a job that they would cut her benefits. *eye roll* I wasn't looking to get my $ back but I just want her to think and think about more then just herself but the kids.
My husband was so disgusted with her kids that he left to stay in a hotel til they all left. She left after a few days and called me about 2 hrs later. Her car had a flat tire and she didn't have a spare and was calling to see if I'd charge a tire and some food for them so they could eat lunch. Ugh!
Do you have family like this? What do you do with them?