Every so often, fine. Special occasion, fine. Every night? Fuck no. I grew up with an alcoholic. I won't allow it in my home now.
**he did apologize after I dumped it**
I started off by apologizing for reacting without talking first. He apologized, and said he was being selfish. I told him my fears, and he admitted to using it as a crutch. He got mad at himself, then thanked me for dumping it.
His words: I don't want to end up like my father. I don't want to lose you guys.
Since I hate to repeat myself
1. no, he is not an alcoholic. Alcoholism runs on both sides of our family, and its hereditary. One a night can easily turn into a problem.
2. Our baby sleeps in a co-sleeper next to our bed. Sometimes he wakes up with ds and lays him down to nurse without waking me. One beer makes him very tired, and he has fallen asleep with ds on the bed. Thankfully, one of us has always woken up and moved him. It only happens when he drinks.