Dh wants to adopt my nephew & I don't blame him!!

[Anonymous]

My sister is 18 years old & has a 9 1/2 month old ds. His daddy is a lying, cheating, druggie & his mom doesn't want to clean house at all because she has nobody to help her. Her boyfriend who is 19 got arrested 2 days after finding out she was pregnant for having cocaine on him & of course lost his job due to not being able to come to work because he was locked up. Later on she found out he was cheating on her. The entire time she was pregnant he would tell her that nobody else would want her now because she's fat ( which she's really not ) & has a nasty stomach. They live with my dad & my little brother who is 17. The house looks like a freaking pig pen. She doesn't have the guts to tell dipwad to get out because she knows once dhr gets involved her ds will be taken away from her & her boyfriend because of the nasty house & the fact he really has nowhere to go. I was talking to dh about it & he said he will not allow this baby to be taken out of our lives & he will do anything he can to get custody of him.

[ajohnson08099]

 I think you need to get up and help her!! Don't wait for her to accept... And stop bitching about her if your brother does n't help either... But you aren't griping about that because there is "nothing you can do"... BULLSHIT...

I'm sorry... get the stick out of your ass and do something about it. Poor thing obviously is struggling...

And you can't make anyone leave their SO unless they want to.. No matter what they are doing.

PATIENCE and COMPASSION will take you far!!

[Anonymous]

Bump!

[Anonymous]

Well the way it seems is that your sister really isn't doing anything to change. And if she says with her bf then things will never change.

Quoting Anonymous:

Because I want to give my sister a chance to make her home safer for her child. I am willing to help her & she knows this, but I will not come clean this house by myself. If it keeps turning up this way though I will step in another way.

Quoting Anonymous:

Sorry but if its that bad why haven't you called CPS yet?

[TattoodMommy19]

I agree with this.
Also, do you have young kids op?
It kinda sounds like y'all just want her baby, not like you truly care about helping your sister.

Quoting mommy_me:

 I think its sad. You are making excuses for the other people in the house but all the blame and judgement falls on your sister. No she should not be the maid for your father and brother. She is young and struggling with her baby and its father. But you dont see that. All you see is the fact the home isnt clean so its all her fault.

I feel really bad for your sister. Having no family to help her or try to encourage her to get away from such a bad situation all around.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

I've been in her shoes before. I had my dd at 17 & was cleaning up after my brother, father, said sister, & my other sister. Plus taking care of my dd & I was in school. I made sure it was done though so my daughter wasn't living in filth.

Quoting mommy_me:

 I think its sad. You are making excuses for the other people in the house but all the blame and judgement falls on your sister. No she should not be the maid for your father and brother. She is young and struggling with her baby and its father. But you dont see that. All you see is the fact the home isnt clean so its all her fault.

I feel really bad for your sister. Having no family to help her or try to encourage her to get away from such a bad situation all around.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Because there is absolutely no thing I can do about him. I am 20 yrs old & he is 16. This kid used to beat me with a pole. I have dealt with his attitude for 5 yrs more than my parents have. They never made him do anything & he won't listen to me because I'm not his mama. And I don't have a stick up my tail. I have been in the same position she is except for I didn't have a sorry baby daddy & I was cleaning up after myself, my dad, said sister, my other sis, my brother, dh, & dd. All while in school.

Quoting ajohnson08099:

 I think you need to get up and help her!! Don't wait for her to accept... And stop bitching about her if your brother does n't help either... But you aren't griping about that because there is "nothing you can do"... BULLSHIT...

I'm sorry... get the stick out of your ass and do something about it. Poor thing obviously is struggling...

And you can't make anyone leave their SO unless they want to.. No matter what they are doing.

PATIENCE and COMPASSION will take you far!!

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

We have a 2.5 yr old daughter. We can only offer to help her so long. It's almost been a year that we've been trying to get her to ditch this guy. I'm not going to continue trying to help somebody that doesn't want help.

Quoting TattoodMommy19:

I agree with this.

Also, do you have young kids op?

It kinda sounds like y'all just want her baby, not like you truly care about helping your sister.

Quoting mommy_me:

 I think its sad. You are making excuses for the other people in the house but all the blame and judgement falls on your sister. No she should not be the maid for your father and brother. She is young and struggling with her baby and its father. But you dont see that. All you see is the fact the home isnt clean so its all her fault.

I feel really bad for your sister. Having no family to help her or try to encourage her to get away from such a bad situation all around.

[PurpleGlitter84]

You have no interest in helping her or your nephew

[PurpleGlitter84]

So your solution is adopting her baby? Your a pathetic excuse for a sister

Quoting Anonymous:

We have a 2.5 yr old daughter. We can only offer to help her so long. It's almost been a year that we've been trying to get her to ditch this guy. I'm not going to continue trying to help somebody that doesn't want help.

Quoting TattoodMommy19:

I agree with this.


Also, do you have young kids op?


It kinda sounds like y'all just want her baby, not like you truly care about helping your sister.

Quoting mommy_me:

 I think its sad. You are making excuses for the other people in the house but all the blame and judgement falls on your sister. No she should not be the maid for your father and brother. She is young and struggling with her baby and its father. But you dont see that. All you see is the fact the home isnt clean so its all her fault.

I feel really bad for your sister. Having no family to help her or try to encourage her to get away from such a bad situation all around.

[ajohnson08099]

 Ok.. Well good for you.. She is not you.. You still need compassion and to help her out. Don't bitch and moan about how she is struggling. Be a sister and be there for her and do what you can.

I don't care if you can do anything about your brother or not... But don't be a hypocrit.. Dont gripe about her, but not about him. Realize that if he was like that to you he could be like that to her.. Also didn't you say your dad has answer? (If not Idk where I made that up from) thats a BIG STRESS... Along with the useless boyfriend... Which is not that easy to get away from and deal with. Act like a big sister and not a bitch.. Sorry... Good for you for what you were able to do... But everything and everyone is different.

Quoting Anonymous:

Because there is absolutely no thing I can do about him. I am 20 yrs old & he is 16. This kid used to beat me with a pole. I have dealt with his attitude for 5 yrs more than my parents have. They never made him do anything & he won't listen to me because I'm not his mama. And I don't have a stick up my tail. I have been in the same position she is except for I didn't have a sorry baby daddy & I was cleaning up after myself, my dad, said sister, my other sis, my brother, dh, & dd. All while in school.

Quoting ajohnson08099:

 I think you need to get up and help her!! Don't wait for her to accept... And stop bitching about her if your brother does n't help either... But you aren't griping about that because there is "nothing you can do"... BULLSHIT...

I'm sorry... get the stick out of your ass and do something about it. Poor thing obviously is struggling...

And you can't make anyone leave their SO unless they want to.. No matter what they are doing.

PATIENCE and COMPASSION will take you far!!