I'm a teen mom, my sisters not--Guess who's the better parent.**edit**

[Anonymous]

You guys like to sit and judge teen moms.
Have you not realized  that there are a lot of moms that arn't teen moms that are way worse.
I had my son when I was 16 I am now 21.
I was kicked out of my dads and moved into my moms.
I paid her rent and also paid for my sons own diapers and formula.
I paid for my own daycare*which I worked at as a part of my childcare course since my highschool had a daycare inside of it not for highschool students but I was the only one that tried*
I graduated in 2009 when I was 18 never got held back and didnt drop out to run to my GED.
I got pregnant that fall and had my second son in July 2010 and went to college that septenber where my boyfriend of both kids supported us so I could.
He proposed in December we got married in May*we been together since we were 15.*
We own a house,  two cars.
We have two wonderful children and I am almost done with college.
We also have a new dog that was rescued which we named Sir Barks Alot as you can probably tell he barks a lot lol.

My sister is 37, has a 9 year old and a 1 year old.
She never bathes them.
Her house is disgusting
She sleeps with the married man next door
We cleaned her fridge when she was in the hospital and found maggots in the fridge.
There was trash all over the floor.
Her son even puked in her car and she just wiped it never cleaned it...
Her daughter is 20 months and still doesn't walk and she doesn't bring her to the doctors since she doesnt have health insurance.
Something is clearly wrong
My nephew stats he beats her but then when dyfs questions him he lies...
and other misc things....


But according to you guys just the fact that I was 16 when I had my son made me the WORSE mom.

*** OKAY so there are a lot of repetitive questions...
1. I called CPS 3 times it took them till the 3rd time to do something.
2. I do NOT know the fathers name.
3. I never said my life was easy and that I didn't struggle.
 && if you must want a list of the struggles I had then fine!

I struggled with being pregnant and fitting into the desk in class
I got made fun of specially since my DH didn't go to my school
I lived in a car for 6 weeks because I was scared to tell my mom that my dad kicked me out.
I struggled paying for daycare diapers and formula, but still managed.
I never went out with my friends and lost almost all of them.
We had trouble thinking we could afford our mortgage payements in a year of owning our house because DH got laid off
We have our cars only because we KNOW people, and in my DH's job he got close to owners of dealerships
Theres some weeks where I eat barely anything to give our children food instead of myself.

There happy? You know my struggles...
But I MADE it.

[Anonymous]

So, your post is funny. You're pissed because of the judgements teen moms get, yet you want a pat on the back for doing what a parent is supposed to do anyway. You're contradicting yourself here. You're trying to show how you're a good parent even though you're a teen, because you know so many teen moms aren't good moms, hence the stereotypes they get. You don't deserve an award or props. You have only done as much as all of us have, which is take care of our kids. I'm glad things turned out well for you, really I am. I'm not being hateful, but seriously, why do you deserve extra credit and praise just because you took care of your kids, when you're supposed to do all of that anyway?

[MonnysPet]

Genius?

LOL

Now who is showing off her youth with 'tude?

You proved nothing; just that you aren't a shit mom. But your sister is.

Teens still shouldn't be getting knocked up and raising children.

Overall, it's better to wait.

Quoting Anonymous:

I never said anything about olfer moms are wrong. Genius. I was proving that the age isn't what matters.

Quoting MonnysPet:

So, because your sister is a POS, that concludes that all older mothers are also POS.

It's so cute how you just totally showed everyone your hypocrisy.

Good for you that you stayed in school and had a support system of your mother to give you a place to live, but that doesn't mean that being a teen mom is in any way a good idea.

[Anonymous]

OMG.

Are you saying a teen mom is possibly a better parent than a mom who was not? Don't be ridiculous. No one ever said that a teen mom could not be a good mom. It does get old hearing teen moms constantly SAY that they are teen moms....like the world should care.

[mommy_me]

 Damned if you do Damned if you dont here. You wont win. These women are cut throat bitches

[Anonymous]

It is not responsible to have a child as.a teen. Answer most teen moms do suck.

[doodlebut]

I was a teen mom, and I run a teen mom support group. Trust me most teen parents don't have houses, cars, and lots of money. If they do, then mommy and daddy bought them, or they married an older man.

Quoting Anonymous:

You WILL get kicked out of the "teen moms of CM"union for telling me the truth about your situation,you know that right?



I don't doubt,for a second,that you are a good mom,I know and believe that teenagers,can and do make good parents,that is not my issue,I'm amused at how the teen moms on CM make it seem like they made the best decisions ever,or that their situation is ideal,like teen pregnancy has absolutely no negative consequence,its,entertaining,annoying and a bit sad.

Quoting Sunshinebee2:

Im a teen mom (i refer to myself as a young mom) whose on cafemom and i gotta be honest i dont have a car i live with my mom im on wic an i have a shitty job








BUT i am a damn good mother

Quoting Anonymous:

I love how all teen moms on CM have their own houses,2 or 3 cars,and are financially secure!who would have thought,the quickest and most reliable path to financial freedom,and getting your shit just right,is getting knocked up as a teen?why the fuck does society still discourage teenagers from having kids??its a good thing!!

[mommy_me]

 you give her attitude and its ok. But she gives you one back and she is showing off her youth?

Pot meet Kettle

Quoting MonnysPet:

Genius?

LOL

Now who is showing off her youth with 'tude?

You proved nothing; just that you aren't a shit mom. But your sister is.

Teens still shouldn't be getting knocked up and raising children.

Overall, it's better to wait.

Quoting Anonymous:

I never said anything about olfer moms are wrong. Genius. I was proving that the age isn't what matters.

Quoting MonnysPet:

So, because your sister is a POS, that concludes that all older mothers are also POS.

It's so cute how you just totally showed everyone your hypocrisy.

Good for you that you stayed in school and had a support system of your mother to give you a place to live, but that doesn't mean that being a teen mom is in any way a good idea.

 

 

 

[Anonymous]

Yawn. You were young and did what you should for your child. Your sister didn't. Age has nothing to do with it. Your post shows your immature thinking to relate age with parenting effectiveness.

[MonnysPet]

I gave her my opinion. No attitude. Please point out 'attitude'.

I never called her a name, I simply told her that her statement showed hypocrisy.

She proved nothing.

Please find another argument to attend to, as you're doing rather poorly in this one.

Quoting mommy_me:

 you give her attitude and its ok. But she gives you one back and she is showing off her youth?

Pot meet Kettle

Quoting MonnysPet:

Genius?

LOL

Now who is showing off her youth with 'tude?

You proved nothing; just that you aren't a shit mom. But your sister is.

Teens still shouldn't be getting knocked up and raising children.

Overall, it's better to wait.

Quoting Anonymous:

I never said anything about olfer moms are wrong. Genius. I was proving that the age isn't what matters.

Quoting MonnysPet:

So, because your sister is a POS, that concludes that all older mothers are also POS.

It's so cute how you just totally showed everyone your hypocrisy.

Good for you that you stayed in school and had a support system of your mother to give you a place to live, but that doesn't mean that being a teen mom is in any way a good idea.

 

[Aamy]

Who cares, just another I'm a teen mom and Im better then everyone, and know it all ..... have fun, don't really care.