I stayed in an abusive marriage....ask me anything...

[Anonymous]

My husband used to be emotionally and physically abusive at times. I stayed and sought counseling for myself, and eventually he recognized he needed help...its been five years since we stopped the counseling and we are way better than before....ask away!

[Lala06]

Wow!

[tifbrown]

Do you ever fear that he will become abusive again?

[svolkov]

So did I for 8yrs, then I left

[tifbrown]

It is incredible that it worked out for you. Most abusive relationships never turn around. Would you encourage other women to stick it out and try or leave when the abuse starts?

[ozarkdragonfly]

No questions but I am glad things worked out better for you than they did for me.

[stephy87]

The honeymoon period can last for years! Be careful. He needs extensive counseling and therapy of sorts to truly change.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Not really, he went to anger management as well which really helped. Also eliminating alcohol from the home and not being around toxic people has helped a lot...if it ever does happen again, I will leave though.

Quoting tifbrown:

Do you ever fear that he will become abusive again?

[stephy87]

Obviously I'm not OP but I work with DV issues. I'd NEVER suggest a woman try to work it out. If anything, separate 100% until he is finished with therapy and such.

Quoting tifbrown:

It is incredible that it worked out for you. Most abusive relationships never turn around. Would you encourage other women to stick it out and try or leave when the abuse starts?

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

I will encourage women to think for themselves. Not all women would be able to stick around or have the desire to help someone that is truly sick. My mom did the same for my dad, although my sister is complete opposite of me....everyone is different.

Quoting tifbrown:

It is incredible that it worked out for you. Most abusive relationships never turn around. Would you encourage other women to stick it out and try or leave when the abuse starts?

[SalemWitchChild]

Why did you stick around? So many people say because its for the kids or they love the guy. I can't see those two reasons being enough incentive to NOT leave. No matter if you have a place to go or not. Did you ever go to a womans shelter?