I have a 3.5 year old boy and we are currently visiting my husband's side of the family. I am not sure if I am being up tight or not, but I just seem to feel like an outcast here. They are very nice people, and we get along fine. But sometimes I just don't feel like I fit in. For example, one day my son spent half of the day playing outside with dirty and stuff, so when it is dinner time, I requested him to go wash his hands before eating. My brother in law immediately said "I didn't wash my hands, I even just touched the engine of a car, and I'm fine." Then my husband also gets really irritated with me and said "He doesn't always have to wash his hands, he is fine." Then my mother in law jumps in and say how they are fine and they need immunity and stuff. I am not trying to be picky, but I was brought up constantly being reminded to wash my hands before food, and I was even raised in a developing country. I thought washing your hands before food is a very basic thing to do, and here I feel like I am some sort of ridiculous person. And also I have my own ways of raising my kid, why the heck do they think I need to alter a very basic human habit that I find comfortable with? These days, I don't even want to be close to my husband because he has the poorest personal hygene out of anyone I know. I spoke of divorce and stuff, but somehow I still believe he will change. I don't know if I am just fooling myself or not, but his or his family's hygene habits are really driving me up the wall. I don't know how long I can live with this before I finally seek for a divorce, for real.