Feeling like an outcast here in husband's family
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I have a 3.5 year old boy and we are currently visiting my husband's side of the family. I am not sure if I am being up tight or not, but I just seem to feel like an outcast here. They are very nice people, and we get along fine. But sometimes I just don't feel like I fit in. For example, one day my son spent half of the day playing outside with dirty and stuff, so when it is dinner time, I requested him to go wash his hands before eating. My brother in law immediately said "I didn't wash my hands, I even just touched the engine of a car, and I'm fine." Then my husband also gets really irritated with me and said "He doesn't always have to wash his hands, he is fine." Then my mother in law jumps in and say how they are fine and they need immunity and stuff. I am not trying to be picky, but I was brought up constantly being reminded to wash my hands before food, and I was even raised in a developing country. I thought washing your hands before food is a very basic thing to do, and here I feel like I am some sort of ridiculous person. And also I have my own ways of raising my kid, why the heck do they think I need to alter a very basic human habit that I find comfortable with? These days, I don't even want to be close to my husband because he has the poorest personal hygene out of anyone I know. I spoke of divorce and stuff, but somehow I still believe he will change. I don't know if I am just fooling myself or not, but his or his family's hygene habits are really driving me up the wall. I don't know how long I can live with this before I finally seek for a divorce, for real.
Oh good Lord....
Quoting Nunyabusiness:
Divorce over hygiene habits?
Oh good Lord....
Quoting Nunyabusiness:
Divorce over hygiene habits?
Oh good Lord....
With or without clean hands.
That would irritate me too, we shower once a day, sometimes more and always wash hands before eating. I thought this was the norm too. I also hate when people don't brush their teeth, i can smell bad breath from three feet away.
I wouldn't be able to be with someone who didnt care about their hygeine either, so don't let the bashers get ya down.
There are other factors mixed in the pot, and hygene is not the only thing that bothers me. But anyways, I am not talking about just not washing hands here, I am also talking about not brushing teeth almost never brushing teeth, and not taking a shower for over a week to a point he stinks, and I couldn't even stand sitting next to him, he also chews tabaccos, so I can smell that constantly too. He doesn't even need to work, I take care of almost everything except for some small house duties. Am I really asking for too much?
Quoting Nunyabusiness:
Divorce over hygiene habits?
Oh good Lord....
There is a guy at work who doesn't care much about bathing and who sometimes stunk so bad of BO that you couldn't stand to be in the same room with him. His reasoning was he wasn't raised to make bathing priority.
Do you ever get hit on even looking a mess?
Why inflict this silly cosmetic pain on a baby!?!