Would you move if...

[Anonymous]

The company your dh works for gave him a job offer? We both grew up here in Illinois and his company wants us to go to Iowa. It's almost a 6 hour drive. It would be a forever type of job. It wouldn't be a huge increase in pay immediately but they are wanting him to take over the place in about two years which would be a huge increase in pay. I'm so stressed at the thought of moving so far. We are a young-ish family right now, I'm almost 26 and my dh will be 28, we have a 4 year old ds. Most of our family is here. I'm nervous about living so far from people who could help us in need and what not. Any similar experiences or advice is much appreciated? Thanks for reading my post!

Also I would have posted this in the group Love and Marriage but I wanted it to be anonymous just incase anyone I know reads this. I know that its probably highly unlikely but still... It's kind of hush hush for now.

[mommyofbrayd473]

Me and my husband did this once. If you so decided to go do not think of it as something that could go bad and realize you are going to stay there. When we moves I made it ALL bad and refused to see the good things there instead of the good we had here. I miss it now when I look back on it.

[Ber-Lynn]

Your child is still young so you don't have to worry about moving schools and this is a great opportunity. Take it and run, yea it will be hard at first not being around family but you will adjust.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Definitely one of the top reasons we even considered it.

Quoting Dzyre1115:

 In this economy I would definitely move for better opportunity.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Same for us. We grew up in this town of 2300 and are so tired of all the drama that surrounds it. Whether or not we move to Iowa we still want to
move a few towns away...

Quoting justone_jen:

I'd do it, but then, I'm ready for a change of scenery anyway.

[MomOfTwins...]

 We did! When I was 21 and dh was 25 we had to move from Idaho to Wisconsin. All of our family was in Idaho, and we had 18 month old twins. We had to move because dhlost his job in 2007 and found one there before his severance pay ran out. Right after we moved I became pregnant with dd, so we lived there for 3 1/2 years, just our little family. It was so, so, so hard. At that time one of my sons became diagnosed with Autism, I had 2 1/2 yr old twins, and a newborn...with no family around with in a 1800 mile period, and dh worked m-f 8-5, I was alone a lot because I didn't know anyone.

We moved back to Idaho after 3 1/2 years because one of my sons needed better therapy and services, plus dh was offered a job that paid a lot more than we were making there.

The move was good for our family. My husband and I had to rely on each other like we had never had to before. We were able to visit family about 2x a year, so I am sure with only a 6 hour drive that wouldn't be too bad for you!! Good luck!!

[kryptomom]

Make the move now before ds is in school.  It will be fine.  Your family will come to see you in times of need.

Good luck.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Thanks you ladies so much for your insight. I only wrote on here so I wouldn't keep dh up all night talking about it. Lol We will hopefully be traveling up there this weekend to check it out and to help influence our decision. Thanks for your stories, it really helps to have another perspective.

[hisgirl616]

We just moved for dh's job.

[Angeldolphine]

Absalutly. I live away from family on both sides. It's nice to have support, but you can establish your own support. I would do what is best for the family.

[GillyMonster87]

My DH is a Marine and we have to move every few years. We moved from MD to NC first and that was really hard I thought.. but it was just a 6 hour drive away.. that is NOT bad at ALL!! Now we've been in Japan 3 years and THAT sucks! Obviously the opportunity is AMAZING.. but I am really close with my family and not being around them or my son really getting to know them is hard.. but you do what you have to for your family. Adapt and overcome!  Trust me 6 hours is NOTHING compared to 24 hours in just air travel! What I would Give to be back just 6 hours from home...