B**** you are not getting anything
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I am doing this under anon cause I have recently learned that BM might be on here. Awhile back she accuse my man of not paying CS and that is why the grandparents wouldn't let him see the kids. CS has nothing to do with visitation rights. He told her he was paying CS and the grandparents were keeping him away from the kids so he would not develop a bond and they were away he would tell the kids the truth. Of course she is the right one because she said she did not have to pay CS so that is why he didn't have to pay CS. She doesn't have to pay CS because she is on disability.
Then she went on telling him how she told the kids the truth blah blah blah. Her truth included that he did not want his kids, did not want to se his kids and the reason she kept them from him was because I beat on them and he use to sit on them, starve them and eat food in front of them. The younger kids actually told a counselor that is why they did not want to be with their dad. That their mom told them their dad sat on them and would starve them but they were too young too remember.
The truth is she took the kids against their court order and he could not find his kids until a couple years later when the older kids got in trouble with the law and the courts sent him a subpoena to court. He never hurt his kids. He is a real softy and I never beat the kid and I am pretty sure the women on CM can tell the rest is BS.
Now she wants him tp pay for their divorce so she can get married and try to get the kids back. He promised she would let him see every now and then. Um... yeah that is not gonna happen because she is a lying manipulative bitch. Besides she lost her kids because she is a shitty parent. She wants him to use his next tax return that he does not claim their kids on to pay for a trip to walt disney world for her and the kids... Yeah that isn't happening either. This bitch is obviously delusional.
We plan to use the taxreturn to pay bills in advance and if we can a down payment on a cheap home. There are a lot of them around here.
She has decided to tell people my man won't give her a divorce because he does not want to see her happy and is trying to get back with her. And he doesn't want to pay for his kids to have a great vacation next year because he doesn't care about them.
Ok my vent is over. I need to relax. Don't need to go to an OB appointment pissed off.
Well if you want him to marry you, isn't it in your best interest to have him at least help pay for the divorce? I mean, if you do it uncontested, it's not that expensive. Everything else she sounds crazy about. Also he can't file for visitation (which you think he would if he really wanted to see them) if they are still married. Sorry but something seems off in your story
He has filed for visitation and his visitation upon the grandparents' discretion. They make excuses for why he cannot see the kids. We have been battling with them about this for a long time.
Quoting LoganTroyMom:
if he wanted visitation he'd file for it. end of story.
She is not that bright. I was in court one day waiting for our names to be called and the case worker was talking to the guardian en lituem about her and she thought they were talking about someone else.
Quoting .not.angel.:
LOL @ going anon to tell a personal story because the person it's about is on here. She'll know it's you.
Quoting Anonymous:
it's very easy to get set days to visit. even supervised visitation. any biological parent (even non custodial), as long as their rights haven't been terminated, has a right to visitation. there should be no back and forth. what details are you leaving out?
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He will but not on her terms. We don't know where BM is she keeps moving. She wants him to tell her where he lives and give her the money and she will do it but doesn't want to give him her address or new cell #. That sounds really shady to us. We will go through a lawyer who will write up a uncontestant divorce and will run an ad in the newspaper for 30 days for her to meet him at the court house. If she doesn't show up he will still get his divorce.
Um he can file for visitation. When they separated he filed for visitation and they had split custody while they were married. This way after their year wait all they had to file for in the divorce would be their assets not visitations. She took the kids against their court order custody agreement. After he found the kids again, she lost custody because of neglect and he could not get them cause they said he had to reestablish a bond with his kids. Her parents got custody. He has visitation but the courts in that county have it so its through the grandparents' discretion. The courts thought that was best so the kids could get a chance to settle into their new environment. He is trying to fight it because they keep making excuses to why he can't see the kids or talk to them most of the time.
Quoting JLS2388:Well if you want him to marry you, isn't it in your best interest to have him at least help pay for the divorce? I mean, if you do it uncontested, it's not that expensive. Everything else she sounds crazy about. Also he can't file for visitation (which you think he would if he really wanted to see them) if they are still married. Sorry but something seems off in your story
There is no way that is all that is going on, IF the judge were to give her parents custody, they would at LEAST have a set visitation schedule IF the only problem was he needed to reestablish himself with the kids
Quoting Anonymous:He will but not on her terms. We don't know where BM is she keeps moving. She wants him to tell her where he lives and give her the money and she will do it but doesn't want to give him her address or new cell #. That sounds really shady to us. We will go through a lawyer who will write up a uncontestant divorce and will run an ad in the newspaper for 30 days for her to meet him at the court house. If she doesn't show up he will still get his divorce.
Um he can file for visitation. When they separated he filed for visitation and they had split custody while they were married. This way after their year wait all they had to file for in the divorce would be their assets not visitations. She took the kids against their court order custody agreement. After he found the kids again, she lost custody because of neglect and he could not get them cause they said he had to reestablish a bond with his kids. Her parents got custody. He has visitation but the courts in that county have it so its through the grandparents' discretion. The courts thought that was best so the kids could get a chance to settle into their new environment. He is trying to fight it because they keep making excuses to why he can't see the kids or talk to them most of the time.Quoting JLS2388:Well if you want him to marry you, isn't it in your best interest to have him at least help pay for the divorce? I mean, if you do it uncontested, it's not that expensive. Everything else she sounds crazy about. Also he can't file for visitation (which you think he would if he really wanted to see them) if they are still married. Sorry but something seems off in your story
At what age should I tell my son dh is not his bio dad?