Adoption? *updated*
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I'm pregnant with my fourth child. My youngest is still a baby and all of my children are under five. I am married and in a happy and healthy relationship with my husband. My husband is the father of all my children. Financally we are okay. We pay our bills on time we can feed and clothe every one, but money is tight. I'm a SAHM and like it this way. We could afford another child as both cars will be paid off before this baby will be born... It would be tight but we could do it. I don't know that I want another child. Actually I don't want another child.
I'm seriously concidering adoption. I've talked to my husband about it and he doesn't like the idea but will support me in whatever I decide to do.
There is my confession of the day.
Updated... When my husband got home from work he told me he changed his mind and that he just couldn't give up a baby. He has agreed to be more helpful with the kids and cleaning and I will talk to my Doctor on Monday about more help with my depression. Thank you all for your support and advice.
Quoting Starburst72:It is a very selfless thing for you to consider doing when you have born children who will wonder what is going on and where the "bump" went later. hugs to you
You might want to talk to a councelor who works in the adoption field about how to handle the other kids and their possible questions, fear and anxieties
Quoting Anonymous:
One of my fears is my oldest will know whats going on and be afraid that I'll just give him away, too. :( I just don't know that I'm up to dealing with another baby.
Quoting Starburst72:It is a very selfless thing for you to consider doing when you have born children who will wonder what is going on and where the "bump" went later. hugs to you
Pray for the happiness of those who curse you.Pray for those who hurt you.Luke 6:28
Quoting Starburst72:You might want to talk to a councelor who works in the adoption field about how to handle the other kids and their possible questions, fear and anxieties
Quoting Anonymous:
One of my fears is my oldest will know whats going on and be afraid that I'll just give him away, too. :( I just don't know that I'm up to dealing with another baby.
Quoting Starburst72:It is a very selfless thing for you to consider doing when you have born children who will wonder what is going on and where the "bump" went later. hugs to you
No problem I gave a baby up 13 years ago so I have a tiny bit of experience with it. i did not have another child in the hoome but i remember that the adoption agency offered counceling to help siblings come to terms
Quoting Anonymous:
Thats a good idea. Thanks for the advice
Quoting Starburst72:You might want to talk to a councelor who works in the adoption field about how to handle the other kids and their possible questions, fear and anxieties
Quoting Anonymous:
One of my fears is my oldest will know whats going on and be afraid that I'll just give him away, too. :( I just don't know that I'm up to dealing with another baby.
Quoting Starburst72:It is a very selfless thing for you to consider doing when you have born children who will wonder what is going on and where the "bump" went later. hugs to you
Pray for the happiness of those who curse you.Pray for those who hurt you.Luke 6:28
Quoting Starburst72:No problem I gave a baby up 13 years ago so I have a tiny bit of experience with it. i did not have another child in the hoome but i remember that the adoption agency offered counceling to help siblings come to terms
Quoting Anonymous:
Thats a good idea. Thanks for the advice
Quoting Starburst72:You might want to talk to a councelor who works in the adoption field about how to handle the other kids and their possible questions, fear and anxieties
Quoting Anonymous:
One of my fears is my oldest will know whats going on and be afraid that I'll just give him away, too. :( I just don't know that I'm up to dealing with another baby.
Quoting Starburst72:It is a very selfless thing for you to consider doing when you have born children who will wonder what is going on and where the "bump" went later. hugs to you
My heart still hurts every day for what i missed out on but no regrets because it gave my child a better life than i could give him back then
Quoting Anonymous:
Do you have and regrets about the adoption?
Quoting Starburst72:No problem I gave a baby up 13 years ago so I have a tiny bit of experience with it. i did not have another child in the hoome but i remember that the adoption agency offered counceling to help siblings come to terms
Quoting Anonymous:
Thats a good idea. Thanks for the advice
Quoting Starburst72:You might want to talk to a councelor who works in the adoption field about how to handle the other kids and their possible questions, fear and anxieties
Quoting Anonymous:
One of my fears is my oldest will know whats going on and be afraid that I'll just give him away, too. :( I just don't know that I'm up to dealing with another baby.
Quoting Starburst72:It is a very selfless thing for you to consider doing when you have born children who will wonder what is going on and where the "bump" went later. hugs to you
Pray for the happiness of those who curse you.Pray for those who hurt you.Luke 6:28
Quoting TurtleSquish:
That must be a rough decision to make. My wife and I have tried adopting twice and both times fell through. If you so decide to do it, know that you'll be giving a couple domething they could nev3r have otherwise and its an amazing blessing
S/o What would you do if you found out your 17yo had sex?