What does that even mean? Does is it mean when choosing who to sleep w/at night b/c your kid is scared of the dark, or life and death situations or is it a day to day battle of choosing what your husband wants and needs over your childrens wants or needs.... I ask this b/c I keep hearing this statement and no one is allaborating what it means. I think my husband and I have a very good relationship, friendship and marriage and we don't put each others wants or needs before our children unless extenuating circumstances, and that works for us. But women have said he secretly feels neglected and thats funny b/c I don't and we have the same ideas... We have date nights, and we talk regularly About feelings and thoughts so what am I missing? What does it mean to put my husband before my children?