I'm mad my MIL says this...

[Anonymous]

"I think you should cut him off completely and not let him in her life." talking about my DDs biologically father. He sent her 150$ for her birthday this saturday. He used to be in her life but things got complicated and he was in and out too much. He never sends money. He wanted to do this Bc e doesn't get to see her. We both Agreed I was going to tell her when she is old enough to understand. He's in the military currently deployed. He has his own family. And I have mine. We know the plan. And I do not cut him out. I send pics and we talk now and then. We are on a civil level and I'd like to keep it that way.

A while back she said I don't think you should ever tell her about him. I got mad and was like no absolutely not! I will tell her and I plan on it. How would YOU feel. That is so fcked up.

Uhhhh sorry I need to vent! I want to bring it up ad tell her to stop saying that. But I know I should probably drop it.

[AngryBob]

Stop feeding her information. Your issues (or lack thereof) are absolutely none of her business.

[MyLittlePwny]

Your child your decision. Tell her to mind her own fucking business.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Well I was until she said where did you get the money to get her all these gifts?!

Ugh

[BEXi]

I dont know the backstory, so I couldnt say how I would feel.

I agree with the PP and stop giving her information about what you do when it comes to him.

[BEXi]

"Nunya!"

Quoting Anonymous:

Well I was until she said where did you get the money to get her all these gifts?!

Ugh

[krayzbabylove]

Why is she in any way involved with what goes on between dd and her bio father anyway. It is really none of her business.

[MyLittlePwny]

None of her business.

Quoting Anonymous:

Well I was until she said where did you get the money to get her all these gifts?!



Ugh

[Anonymous]

This is your MIL.  She likely feels that by having this other person in her grandchildren's life, her son will be thought of as less of a father.  She's not right, but that's where she's coming from.   She's entitled to her beliefs, on what she thinks you should tell your son.  In reality, this decision belongs to you and your husband, and how the two of you want to handle it. 

[jesistar6910]

You just tell her what happens with your DD and her father is none of her business. 

[beaularson91]

no thats your daughters father she has a right to know about him and at least he made an effort to have at least updates on her