Don't know what else to tell him *ETA*
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I am a single mom of 2 kids. We live with my parents till I am back on my feet, and it works for us, there aren't many issues. I should also add that I am in my late 20s. I have been seeing this guy since February, and very recently we had sex (like a month ago) for the first time. I don't stay the night with him because I have to be home with my kids, we have dates 2-3 times a month and texted/call eachother every day. We do something with the kids my kids every weekend. Here is the problem, he wants me to spend the night with him or him speed the night here. He understands why I won't stay with him, my parents have already done so much for me I can't ask them to watch them over night. I don't know how my parents would feel about him speeding the night here, I'm not very comfortable asking them if it would be ok. I have already asked so much of them already I feel that would be too much to ask. I just don't know how to explain that to him when I really would like to have him spend the night with me.
What would you do?
*ETA* I just found out that my ex has been released from prison so I am not to worried about this anymore, got to do what I can to protect my kids from him (ex). Thank goodness the guy I'm seeing understands everything, I'm just going to keep things the way they are right now so as to keep the drama to a minimum.
If you can't spend the weekend or night at a hotel, I would go to his place, but only if my parents were cool with it.
Quoting Anonymous:
does he make enough money to support you? if so then it's probably a good investment to spend the night with him occasionally...
What? You mean she should pimp herself out if he makes enough to support her and her kids??? WTF????
Quoting BEXi:I would wait until I moved into my own home before spending the night with the new BF.
This is probably a good idea, but I'm old school like that.
Quoting BEXi:I would wait until I moved into my own home before spending the night with the new BF.
Just simply tell him you think it would be a disrespect to your parents to have him stay there with you.
My only issue with that is asking them to watch the kids for that long. My mom already watches them when I am at school (summer break right now) and on the nights I do go out with him. And I don't pay her anything for it, because they said I should focus on my kids and school for now that they would support us (they are paying mine and the kids way for vacation next week). He has said that it isn't a big deal, that it would be nice to be able to which I agree with that.
Quoting Leobaby2007:
I would plan a weekend to go away just the two of you, IF I thought my parents would be ok with watching the kids. I do NOT think you should bring him to your parents' house to spend the night- how awkward and confusing for your kids.
If you can't spend the weekend or night at a hotel, I would go to his place, but only if my parents were cool with it.
Do you ever get hit on even looking a mess?
Why inflict this silly cosmetic pain on a baby!?!