wtf. advice needed. *ETA* *edited again with thanks*

[kaysha]

I know this is mom's confessions, but its the most active group. I had my baby boy the 2nd. He is child #4. I came home from the hospital yesterday afternoon. While there, I showed signs of healing very well. I didn't need any pain meds (after the epidural wore off). None at all for a two night stay. So I'm home and having contractions. I never had this with my other 3. So I googled it and learned it is normal. Wish someone would have mentioned this at dome point during any pregnancy. Is there a way to make the pain ease? I am taking ibprofin ( however it's spelled), but it isn't helping.

*ETA*
I am not breast feeding. The baby was adopted .

*ETA again*
This post went way off topic. I want to thank those of you who answered it.

Also thank you to those who jumped in against the bashers. I am an open book and have no secrets so the bashing was funny to me.

And if anyone has any questions about my life and choices, feel free to ask. I don't mind sharing my experiences...whether good or bad, happy or hurtful.

[Anonymous]

So you were homeless, which was your fault because you werent doing what you should have been as a mother. And someone came along and did what you couldnt? lol Seems to be happening to you alot. Please for the love of God, never procreate again. 

**Oh and whatever was going on emotionally or physically with you and your husband is not to blame. You had children, you were supposed to be strong for them. However you have a weak mind and allowed a man to get in the way of that... as I said. Please never bear another child. EVER. 

Quoting kaysha:

Wow...you realized you can't get me down so now you start assuming things. Thank you for entertaining me this morning.

Screwed up court system was shorter then saying my ex and I were homeless and gave temporary custody of the kids to his dad for a year. In that year I grew a backbone and divorced the man. He was very abusive to me. Physical, mental, and emotional. I was living with a friend of my family, going to counseling, and working. Ex fil didn't like that I was not a doormat anymore. He and his wife lied saying I was a drug user and hurt my kids. The court records found these lies but because the judge is friends with ex fil I got screwed. I'm not done fighting to get my kids back. I just have to do it in a different court venue. Small towns in small counties get away with a ton of bullshit.

Keep believing what you want honey. I am getting a good laugh at you. So thank you.

Quoting Anonymous:

"screw up court system" code for either I was using, or couldnt properly care for my children and someone else had to step in and do the job I couldnt. Yeah, excuse me if I dont feel sorry. With all of those things happening she was irresponsible to get pregnant AGAIN. What a damn shame. 

Quoting Sarah_Moore:

LAY OFF!!!!!!!! There are circumstances in her life that have made her unstable. It was best for her baby to be adopted. I know ALOT of adopted kids and they are all perfectly happy and not screwed up at all. OP did a wonderful and selfless thing and you are a real nut job. 2 of her kids are with their paternal grandfather because of a screwed up court system and her 3rd passed away making her mentally unstable then you expect her to kill her 4th and then deal with that guilt? No, i dnt think so and it's her life and you need to concentrate on your own!

Quoting Anonymous:

And you think this was the best option? This is bullshit! You should have just gotten a fucking abortion. You have 3 other kids but you couldn't handle one more. Now you have fucked this Childs mind up forever because you couldn't handle your responsibility.

Quoting kaysha:

Because I'm not financially able to raise a baby. So I gave him a life I can't.

Quoting Anonymous:

How come?

Quoting kaysha:

I'm not. The baby was adopted.

Quoting Dereksmom1018:

I had that happen to me when I was nursing. It seemed like it was only for a few days and then it stopped. Is it happening when you are nursing?

[kaysha]

Lmfao what?! I'm a bad mom for providing for my kids even though it means I don't have them... only on Cafemom do you see that logic. I'm not going to stoop down to your level. My life is an open book. I have no secrets. If you don't like the fact that my life is harder than yours and that I'm doing what is best, that's fine. Make yourself feel better at MT expense. I don't care.

Quoting Anonymous:

She put her business out here on the internet so I am free to comment as I wish. My life is together... clearly hers is not.... *shrugs* I could care less if she feels bad or doesnt. Its just a sad state that children were born onto her as a mom. 

Quoting Sarah_Moore:

If you dnt know that to be a fact stf up. It could be like around here where if you know the ppl who do the stuff like thst and you are in good with them you can get away with anything or if you have money you can pay the judge for anything you want. I've seen it happen here plenty. You need to stop being a judgmental bitch and get a life of your own to worry about and stop tyring to make OP feel bad about her decision.

Quoting Anonymous:

"screw up court system" code for either I was using, or couldnt properly care for my children and someone else had to step in and do the job I couldnt. Yeah, excuse me if I dont feel sorry. With all of those things happening she was irresponsible to get pregnant AGAIN. What a damn shame. 

Quoting Sarah_Moore:

LAY OFF!!!!!!!! There are circumstances in her life that have made her unstable. It was best for her baby to be adopted. I know ALOT of adopted kids and they are all perfectly happy and not screwed up at all. OP did a wonderful and selfless thing and you are a real nut job. 2 of her kids are with their paternal grandfather because of a screwed up court system and her 3rd passed away making her mentally unstable then you expect her to kill her 4th and then deal with that guilt? No, i dnt think so and it's her life and you need to concentrate on your own!

Quoting Anonymous:

And you think this was the best option? This is bullshit! You should have just gotten a fucking abortion. You have 3 other kids but you couldn't handle one more. Now you have fucked this Childs mind up forever because you couldn't handle your responsibility.

Quoting kaysha:

Because I'm not financially able to raise a baby. So I gave him a life I can't.

Quoting Anonymous:

How come?

Quoting kaysha:

I'm not. The baby was adopted.

Quoting Dereksmom1018:

I had that happen to me when I was nursing. It seemed like it was only for a few days and then it stopped. Is it happening when you are nursing?

[OneToughMami]

Motrin IB...IB= Ibuprofen ;-)...Motrin is simply a name brand. Ibuprofen is the medication name.

Quoting LoveMyLos:

is it? maybe thats why it worked so well??? LOL

Quoting Anonymous:

Ibuprofen and Motrin are the same thing. You could have overdosed yourself. Your very lucky.

Quoting LoveMyLos:

as for the cramping, it is normal. its just your uterus shrinking. i had bad ones after my dd, like i was in the bathroom on the floor in a fetal position....plus i couldnt shit, sooo yeah, it was fun. i loaded my ass up with ibuprofin and motrin, switching back and forth and it helped. lasted with me about a week or so.

Quoting kaysha:

I believe it is.

Quoting LoveMyLos:

lol sorry, its early.  thats good to know! im sure it was the best thing for both parties involved.

Quoting kaysha:

LOL. Ya... he has a wonderful family and I can tell they love him as if he were blood to them.

Quoting LoveMyLos:

oh wait, i get it....lol

[Anonymous]

Your life is hard because of the choices YOU made. No one else. Second I dont need to make myself feel better at your expense. That is far from what Im doing, but I will voice my opinion on a public forum that YOU posted. That shit is sad and Ill be praying for your children 

Quoting kaysha:

Lmfao what?! I'm a bad mom for providing for my kids even though it means I don't have them... only on Cafemom do you see that logic. I'm not going to stoop down to your level. My life is an open book. I have no secrets. If you don't like the fact that my life is harder than yours and that I'm doing what is best, that's fine. Make yourself feel better at MT expense. I don't care.

Quoting Anonymous:

She put her business out here on the internet so I am free to comment as I wish. My life is together... clearly hers is not.... *shrugs* I could care less if she feels bad or doesnt. Its just a sad state that children were born onto her as a mom. 

Quoting Sarah_Moore:

If you dnt know that to be a fact stf up. It could be like around here where if you know the ppl who do the stuff like thst and you are in good with them you can get away with anything or if you have money you can pay the judge for anything you want. I've seen it happen here plenty. You need to stop being a judgmental bitch and get a life of your own to worry about and stop tyring to make OP feel bad about her decision.

Quoting Anonymous:

"screw up court system" code for either I was using, or couldnt properly care for my children and someone else had to step in and do the job I couldnt. Yeah, excuse me if I dont feel sorry. With all of those things happening she was irresponsible to get pregnant AGAIN. What a damn shame. 

Quoting Sarah_Moore:

LAY OFF!!!!!!!! There are circumstances in her life that have made her unstable. It was best for her baby to be adopted. I know ALOT of adopted kids and they are all perfectly happy and not screwed up at all. OP did a wonderful and selfless thing and you are a real nut job. 2 of her kids are with their paternal grandfather because of a screwed up court system and her 3rd passed away making her mentally unstable then you expect her to kill her 4th and then deal with that guilt? No, i dnt think so and it's her life and you need to concentrate on your own!

Quoting Anonymous:

And you think this was the best option? This is bullshit! You should have just gotten a fucking abortion. You have 3 other kids but you couldn't handle one more. Now you have fucked this Childs mind up forever because you couldn't handle your responsibility.

Quoting kaysha:

Because I'm not financially able to raise a baby. So I gave him a life I can't.

Quoting Anonymous:

How come?

Quoting kaysha:

I'm not. The baby was adopted.

Quoting Dereksmom1018:

I had that happen to me when I was nursing. It seemed like it was only for a few days and then it stopped. Is it happening when you are nursing?

[Anonymous]

Not bashing but if you lost the other three kids, wouldn't you welcome the opportunity to have one with you? Why would you fight for The other two if you don't think you are fit to raise the new baby?

[Kermitthemom23]

um. no offense but what does any of this have to do with cramps??

the more kids you have the worse it hurts said my doc. the more active you are the longer it will take to go away

Quoting Anonymous:

So you were homeless, which was your fault because you werent doing what you should have been as a mother. And someone came along and did what you couldnt? lol Seems to be happening to you alot. Please for the love of God, never procreate again. 

**Oh and whatever was going on emotionally or physically with you and your husband is not to blame. You had children, you were supposed to be strong for them. However you have a weak mind and allowed a man to get in the way of that... as I said. Please never bear another child. EVER. 

Quoting kaysha:

Wow...you realized you can't get me down so now you start assuming things. Thank you for entertaining me this morning.



Screwed up court system was shorter then saying my ex and I were homeless and gave temporary custody of the kids to his dad for a year. In that year I grew a backbone and divorced the man. He was very abusive to me. Physical, mental, and emotional. I was living with a friend of my family, going to counseling, and working. Ex fil didn't like that I was not a doormat anymore. He and his wife lied saying I was a drug user and hurt my kids. The court records found these lies but because the judge is friends with ex fil I got screwed. I'm not done fighting to get my kids back. I just have to do it in a different court venue. Small towns in small counties get away with a ton of bullshit.



Keep believing what you want honey. I am getting a good laugh at you. So thank you.

Quoting Anonymous:

"screw up court system" code for either I was using, or couldnt properly care for my children and someone else had to step in and do the job I couldnt. Yeah, excuse me if I dont feel sorry. With all of those things happening she was irresponsible to get pregnant AGAIN. What a damn shame. 

Quoting Sarah_Moore:

LAY OFF!!!!!!!! There are circumstances in her life that have made her unstable. It was best for her baby to be adopted. I know ALOT of adopted kids and they are all perfectly happy and not screwed up at all. OP did a wonderful and selfless thing and you are a real nut job. 2 of her kids are with their paternal grandfather because of a screwed up court system and her 3rd passed away making her mentally unstable then you expect her to kill her 4th and then deal with that guilt? No, i dnt think so and it's her life and you need to concentrate on your own!

Quoting Anonymous:

And you think this was the best option? This is bullshit! You should have just gotten a fucking abortion. You have 3 other kids but you couldn't handle one more. Now you have fucked this Childs mind up forever because you couldn't handle your responsibility.

Quoting kaysha:

Because I'm not financially able to raise a baby. So I gave him a life I can't.

Quoting Anonymous:

How come?

Quoting kaysha:

I'm not. The baby was adopted.

Quoting Dereksmom1018:

I had that happen to me when I was nursing. It seemed like it was only for a few days and then it stopped. Is it happening when you are nursing?

[kaysha]

OK. Yet again think what you will. I never once said I'm totally blameless. Life happened and yes I'm paying fir it now. But I know that things will eventually get better. My children are safe. I'm getting my shit together. And go ahead and pray for the kids, extra prayers never hurt anything.

Quoting Anonymous:

Your life is hard because of the choices YOU made. No one else. Second I dont need to make myself feel better at your expense. That is far from what Im doing, but I will voice my opinion on a public forum that YOU posted. That shit is sad and Ill be praying for your children 

Quoting kaysha:

Lmfao what?! I'm a bad mom for providing for my kids even though it means I don't have them... only on Cafemom do you see that logic. I'm not going to stoop down to your level. My life is an open book. I have no secrets. If you don't like the fact that my life is harder than yours and that I'm doing what is best, that's fine. Make yourself feel better at MT expense. I don't care.

Quoting Anonymous:

She put her business out here on the internet so I am free to comment as I wish. My life is together... clearly hers is not.... *shrugs* I could care less if she feels bad or doesnt. Its just a sad state that children were born onto her as a mom. 

Quoting Sarah_Moore:

If you dnt know that to be a fact stf up. It could be like around here where if you know the ppl who do the stuff like thst and you are in good with them you can get away with anything or if you have money you can pay the judge for anything you want. I've seen it happen here plenty. You need to stop being a judgmental bitch and get a life of your own to worry about and stop tyring to make OP feel bad about her decision.

Quoting Anonymous:

"screw up court system" code for either I was using, or couldnt properly care for my children and someone else had to step in and do the job I couldnt. Yeah, excuse me if I dont feel sorry. With all of those things happening she was irresponsible to get pregnant AGAIN. What a damn shame. 

Quoting Sarah_Moore:

LAY OFF!!!!!!!! There are circumstances in her life that have made her unstable. It was best for her baby to be adopted. I know ALOT of adopted kids and they are all perfectly happy and not screwed up at all. OP did a wonderful and selfless thing and you are a real nut job. 2 of her kids are with their paternal grandfather because of a screwed up court system and her 3rd passed away making her mentally unstable then you expect her to kill her 4th and then deal with that guilt? No, i dnt think so and it's her life and you need to concentrate on your own!

Quoting Anonymous:

And you think this was the best option? This is bullshit! You should have just gotten a fucking abortion. You have 3 other kids but you couldn't handle one more. Now you have fucked this Childs mind up forever because you couldn't handle your responsibility.

Quoting kaysha:

Because I'm not financially able to raise a baby. So I gave him a life I can't.

Quoting Anonymous:

How come?

Quoting kaysha:

I'm not. The baby was adopted.

Quoting Dereksmom1018:

I had that happen to me when I was nursing. It seemed like it was only for a few days and then it stopped. Is it happening when you are nursing?

[Sarah_Moore]

As i said u dnt know her or her situation so shut up. She tried to tell you what happened but obviously you choose to not believe her. She is at least trying though, most ppl dnt try after getting beat down that far, they lose hope and just quit.

Quoting Anonymous:

She put her business out here on the internet so I am free to comment as I wish. My life is together... clearly hers is not.... *shrugs* I could care less if she feels bad or doesnt. Its just a sad state that children were born onto her as a mom. 

Quoting Sarah_Moore:

If you dnt know that to be a fact stf up. It could be like around here where if you know the ppl who do the stuff like thst and you are in good with them you can get away with anything or if you have money you can pay the judge for anything you want. I've seen it happen here plenty. You need to stop being a judgmental bitch and get a life of your own to worry about and stop tyring to make OP feel bad about her decision.

Quoting Anonymous:

"screw up court system" code for either I was using, or couldnt properly care for my children and someone else had to step in and do the job I couldnt. Yeah, excuse me if I dont feel sorry. With all of those things happening she was irresponsible to get pregnant AGAIN. What a damn shame. 

Quoting Sarah_Moore:

LAY OFF!!!!!!!! There are circumstances in her life that have made her unstable. It was best for her baby to be adopted. I know ALOT of adopted kids and they are all perfectly happy and not screwed up at all. OP did a wonderful and selfless thing and you are a real nut job. 2 of her kids are with their paternal grandfather because of a screwed up court system and her 3rd passed away making her mentally unstable then you expect her to kill her 4th and then deal with that guilt? No, i dnt think so and it's her life and you need to concentrate on your own!

Quoting Anonymous:

And you think this was the best option? This is bullshit! You should have just gotten a fucking abortion. You have 3 other kids but you couldn't handle one more. Now you have fucked this Childs mind up forever because you couldn't handle your responsibility.

Quoting kaysha:

Because I'm not financially able to raise a baby. So I gave him a life I can't.

Quoting Anonymous:

How come?

Quoting kaysha:

I'm not. The baby was adopted.

Quoting Dereksmom1018:

I had that happen to me when I was nursing. It seemed like it was only for a few days and then it stopped. Is it happening when you are nursing?

[LoveMyLos]

youre a dif kind of special.....stfu. noone cares about your moronic spewing of you think should be done, or couldve been done.........stop being a fucking twat.

Quoting Anonymous:

So you were homeless, which was your fault because you werent doing what you should have been as a mother. And someone came along and did what you couldnt? lol Seems to be happening to you alot. Please for the love of God, never procreate again. 

**Oh and whatever was going on emotionally or physically with you and your husband is not to blame. You had children, you were supposed to be strong for them. However you have a weak mind and allowed a man to get in the way of that... as I said. Please never bear another child. EVER. 

Quoting kaysha:

Wow...you realized you can't get me down so now you start assuming things. Thank you for entertaining me this morning.

Screwed up court system was shorter then saying my ex and I were homeless and gave temporary custody of the kids to his dad for a year. In that year I grew a backbone and divorced the man. He was very abusive to me. Physical, mental, and emotional. I was living with a friend of my family, going to counseling, and working. Ex fil didn't like that I was not a doormat anymore. He and his wife lied saying I was a drug user and hurt my kids. The court records found these lies but because the judge is friends with ex fil I got screwed. I'm not done fighting to get my kids back. I just have to do it in a different court venue. Small towns in small counties get away with a ton of bullshit.

Keep believing what you want honey. I am getting a good laugh at you. So thank you.

Quoting Anonymous:

"screw up court system" code for either I was using, or couldnt properly care for my children and someone else had to step in and do the job I couldnt. Yeah, excuse me if I dont feel sorry. With all of those things happening she was irresponsible to get pregnant AGAIN. What a damn shame. 

Quoting Sarah_Moore:

LAY OFF!!!!!!!! There are circumstances in her life that have made her unstable. It was best for her baby to be adopted. I know ALOT of adopted kids and they are all perfectly happy and not screwed up at all. OP did a wonderful and selfless thing and you are a real nut job. 2 of her kids are with their paternal grandfather because of a screwed up court system and her 3rd passed away making her mentally unstable then you expect her to kill her 4th and then deal with that guilt? No, i dnt think so and it's her life and you need to concentrate on your own!

Quoting Anonymous:

And you think this was the best option? This is bullshit! You should have just gotten a fucking abortion. You have 3 other kids but you couldn't handle one more. Now you have fucked this Childs mind up forever because you couldn't handle your responsibility.

Quoting kaysha:

Because I'm not financially able to raise a baby. So I gave him a life I can't.

Quoting Anonymous:

How come?

Quoting kaysha:

I'm not. The baby was adopted.

Quoting Dereksmom1018:

I had that happen to me when I was nursing. It seemed like it was only for a few days and then it stopped. Is it happening when you are nursing?

[kaysha]

I'm not financially stable right now. I'm still emotionally screwy from the death of #3. Although I don't have kids #1and 2, I know they are happy,healthy and stable. I can't fight for them right now (finances), I am saving every little bit I can so later in life, when things get better I can have the finances to fight fir them.

Baby #4 went to a family who understands my situation. I would love to have all my kids right now, but it isn't possible.

Quoting Anonymous:

Not bashing but if you lost the other three kids, wouldn't you welcome the opportunity to have one with you? Why would you fight for The other two if you don't think you are fit to raise the new baby?