Dh's behavior : xbox/no job.. im pregnant with first!!?
My husbands been a hard worker since he was 13 years old, started out at mcdonalds and moved on to manufacturing jobs. He was with a temp job agency when we found out i was pregnant (im 16wks) and he lost the job that day, (hes never been fired, only laid off due to company issues). I didnt stress, because hes always found a job as soon as he lost one, but.. this time.. i had to hound him about finding a job!? And i shouldnt because im pregnant!!?? Further more, he spends from the time he wakes up, till the time he goes to sleep most days, on the XBOX!!!?! I feel its straining our relationship the time hes spending on that thing, i feel like throwing it out the window, and have told him, most woman would have by now.. or worse!! Then he pisses me off more by saying "oh your just being emotinal because of the prego." NO! IM NOT! im being honest and blunt and telling you to straighten the fuck up!
Now granted, i love him dearly, i dont want to leave him... and he does have a health problem.. "thyroid hymroids??" some protruding some not, and at his last job he almost lost his life by busting one, and bleeding gallons of blood, so his parents have told him not to get a job till he gets a surgery, hes at docs office today, idk what there going to do, his dad offered to come by and take him.. and even with the surgery, itll be a month before he can work..
Im due in december! And im worried... if the actions ive been seing are a permanent thing! Because he wasnt like this at all, until he lost his job last and found out i was pregnant.. I just dont get it. :( I dont want to loose him, im at a loss.. but i know things have got to change :(
EDIT: Why is everyone assuming i have no job??? Yes i have a job!! But soon im going to have to take maternity leave at least for a couple weeks, and further more, i shouldnt be the only one working!!!
I say pawn/sell the Xbox since you all will need the money. You can't really nag him to get a job, it will
Make things worse. Maybe you can start looking (if you don't have a job already) and start saving. You're gonna need some money.
yes i am working, but were living paycheck to paycheck.. and thats got to change. when he has a job, he makes great money.. but me im only able to get min wage jobs.
Quoting tiffanijohnson:
Ok so he's not working, check. I'm assuming your not either. So how are y'all paying the bills? And also just cause you're pregnant doesn't mean you can't look for a job either.
never said im not working, but i shouldnt be the only one!!!!!
Quoting beerabitch69:
Why cant you work?
how can i get him motivated? without throwing divorce in the picture!? which i dont, i want to stay and love him, but i need him to want to help take care of me and our baby to be
But if i sold the xbox.. and all his accesories with it (god thatd be worth at least 400+) hed be so furious.. he claims it his only out to stress... trust me im damn ready to get rid of it, but dont know how to without starting a serious arguement and so on. and yes.. i have a job.
Quoting iamcafemom83:
I'm so glad my husband isn't into games like that. I know a few women whose husbands are and it's ridiculous how they act.
I say pawn/sell the Xbox since you all will need the money. You can't really nag him to get a job, it will
Make things worse. Maybe you can start looking (if you don't have a job already) and start saving. You're gonna need some money.
Quoting ttcwlee_18:never said im not working, but i shouldnt be the only one!!!!!
Quoting beerabitch69:
Why cant you work?
I think my husband's a sociopath
FIL was arrested for assaulting me
- ttcwlee_18
on Jul. 5, 2012 at 3:44 PM